Woman dumps fiancé after he buys new home with his mom. Internet says she's dodged a 'giant red flag'

Most couples dream of having their own house and plan accordingly to achieve it. Sometimes, however, to cut to the chase of fulfilling this dream, some partners opt for cheaper alternatives, which could bail them out of making the final, hefty purchase. A 28-year-old woman, u/Intelligent_Half8061, found herself in similar circumstances after her fiancé decided to join hands with his mother to materialize the couple’s long-standing goal. She felt cheated and decided to call off their wedding. Contrary to her and her fiancé’s families, many empathized with the woman as her partner prioritized his mom over her.

In the post, the woman shared that her wedding was due in the fall of this year and that she had been envisioning her future with him. Instead, her 30-year-old fiancé chose to ignore her in the most important decision of the couple’s life together, i.e., buying their own place. After five years together, during which they dreamed of a special married life, she realized it was all not worth it. “(We) had been talking for years about our future, like kids, finances, and buying a house together. We had a whole plan to save up, find something we both loved, and make it our home,” she stated, adding that her fiancé had consistently agreed with her on these plans.

“Welp. Turns out he already bought a house. But not with me… with his mom. And he didn’t even tell me he was looking,” the woman stated further. She emphasized how her future mother-in-law found “the perfect place” and convinced her son to split the cost of purchasing it. The future mother-in-law was in no mood to “rent anymore,” according to the woman. “So now, instead of us planning our future together, he’s financially tied to his mother, who’s going to be living there full-time,” her post noted. After the woman received the news, her first reaction was expectedly unpleasant toward her fiancé.

“I just stared at him like… w**?? And when I asked where I fit into all this, he goes, ‘Oh, well, you can move in too, of course!’” the woman wrote. She continued, “Like I’m supposed to be thrilled to live in a house his mom picked out, partially owns, and is just… there all the time.”

Upon further questioning, her fiancé admitted that his decision was based on cutting to the chase because the woman was taking "too long" to save money, and his mom offered him a "faster way" to own something. The woman, who was about to marry him, was shocked, pissed, and needed space, which she later told him.

“The more I thought about it, the more I realized I can’t marry someone who thinks this is normal. So, I called off the wedding. And now his whole family is blowing up my phone saying I’m being dramatic, that ‘it’s just a house’ and that I’m overreacting because we can still ‘live together,’” she shared in her post.

The woman concluded by suggesting that she felt she didn’t receive support from her parents after calling it quits. Instead, they opined that canceling the whole wedding was an extreme step. She asked the people on the internet whether her partner’s attitude was a “giant red flag,” and they couldn’t agree more.

“He didn’t just buy a house. He built a whole future with his mommy and left you out. That’s not a mistake... it’s a conscious decision to prioritize her over you,” u/410Writer expressed. “He didn't tell you; he didn't include you and he just expects you to live with his mom. You're an afterthought,” u/Shai7809 added.