The woman explains how boomer parents used to think that 'beating' their kids would be good for them to learn manners and it resonates with many.
It's a popular belief nowadays that Gen Z people are throwing civilization into the ground because they are "too lazy" or "addicted to their phones" among other things. However, it's possible that we ought to focus on the boomer generation who raised them. Mariama Diallo (@mariamas.trench) on TikTok explained how much boomer parenting has impacted Gen Z kids and millennials in a video. She claimed that when it came to raising their kids, boomer parents lacked "emotional intelligence."
She stitched to a clip shared by @shotsentertainmentviral, where a woman is seen hitting the nail on the head by sharing the ways in which boomer parents ruined the emotional stability of Gen Z and millennials in the name of parenting. "I've spoken about how my generation's parents were taught a very terrible way of parenting, to the point where they feel the best way to discipline their child is for their child to be terrified of them," Diallo said at the beginning of her video. She explained that boomer parenting was all about equating fear with respect but that was not the case. They felt that hitting, yelling at their children would eventually persuade them to behave and this was evident in the punishments that were given out by boomers.
"For the most part, when they're younger they do because they're small. When the child gets bigger and they start getting stronger and they get used to them getting beat, they start eating the punishments," she continued, adding that the kids of boomers started to get used to these punishments and even expected that every time they did something wrong. Diallo described this behavior of parents as "no calls, no show."
It basically means that once their children turn 18, they stop calling, they stop showing up and these parents never see their children again. "Your child was tired of you, they were waiting for that one time to escape and they did and now you will never see them again until you get up and apologize. But that's another thing my generation's parents don't really know how to do. They don't really know how to say sorry because they think that children don't deserve respect," Diallo pointed out.
She further explains that this could be the reason why many of the Gen Z and millennials lack an emotional connection with either one of their parents or both. On one side, the boomer parents weren't thinking about the lasting effects of their actions. Their kids grew up to realize that the bond they had with their parents was not healthy at all. "Until my generation's parents understand that they have to emotionally connect with their child in a way that they would want their parents to do to them, they will never build a long-term connection with their kid. They're just basically raising their kid for 18 years just for them to never see them again," Diallo stated.
In her follow-up video, Diallo replied to a comment from a TikTok user who said that they "appreciated" their parents' abuse, yelling and beatings of them as children. Diallo retorted that this mentality is a sign of Stockholm Syndrome as well as the result of kids being gaslighted by their parents for years. "I'm so sorry that you think that it was okay for your parents to beat you when you made minor mistakes that they easily could have sat you down and explained," Diallo said. "Gaslighting with the way this generation's parents — the Gen Z parents, Millenials, Gen X parents — how they treated them, gaslighting was a key part because they would treat their child like they have no respect for them," Diallo addressed.
Some other commentators could resonate with every word she said. @theraincoatroom wrote, "It’s always the boomer parents and the Gen X parents that were raised by boomer parents who also never taught emotional intelligence." @nithatsit added, "That's why I don't want children. This family has gone through 3 generations of emotional unintelligence, I don't need a 4th." It's high time parents start to understand that fear does not equate to respect and it destroys the trust between a parent and child.