'The biggest assumption that we take for granted is that we're going to be back home, make it back home,' said the co-worker to the dad.
Having a colicky baby can be quite hard for parents. The child does not stop crying despite being fed or taken proper care of and this goes on till the kid is 3 or 4 months of age. One such parent Jake Sutton (@jake_no_khakis), opened up on TikTok about how it feels to have a baby with colic and how it affects the household. However, he also shared life-changing advice that his co-worker gave him and how it changed his entire perspective.
In a viral video, Sutton starts by saying, "I want to be really vulnerable here for a second, but I really think this is something that everyone needs to hear. This guy at work really told me something that really f--ked me up." He then goes on to talk about his daughter. "Me and my wife just had a new baby. She is a little over two months old. And she has been so hard. My daughter, she is colicky. So anybody who has had a colicky baby knows that they would cry for hours for no reason. They could be fed, changed, and comfortable, they just work 24 hours a day. And she doesn't want to sleep, she doesn't want to be put down. It has changed the dynamic of our household. How we run things when I get home, in the morning, me and my wife's intimacy, our time together, all of it has changed," shares Sutton in the video.
The dad then speaks about a big fight he had with his wife a few days ago and "it bled over into the next morning." He then mentions how his co-worker noticed that he seemed down. "I said, 'Man, it's just me and my wife. We just got into a big fight the other day. It's just kinda bleeding over. I haven't even talked to her this morning.' And I told him, 'Whenever I get home today, I guess we'll figure it out. If not, whatever,'" explains Sutton, as reported by Scary Mommy.
And these were the wise words of his co-worker, "Who told you that?" he asked Jake. He then clarifies, "Who told you that you were going to make it home?" "Look, I'm not a relationship counselor and the last person to tell somebody what to do," the co-worker continued. "But the biggest assumption that we take for granted is that we are going to be back home, make it back home, whenever we leave for work in the morning. You need to call your wife."
When Sutton was re-telling the story in the car, he broke down. He concluded the video by saying, "What he told me really f--cked me up. And now I'm fixing to call my wife." The video left many people in tears and garnered over 14 million views and 2.4 million likes on TikTok. One user @geperezdev commented, "Thank you very much for having the courage to share this message. many of us needed to hear it. my best wishes to you and your family!" @hourphoto wrote, "Omg.... I'm crying...your vulnerability and honest genuine reaction just hearing yourself repeat that out loud broke my heart." @1lorenaguillen1 said, "That's a coworker you need to keep in your life! he is an awesome person."
The dad gave an update in a follow-up video and talked about what they have changed in the last week. He said that they changed the formula to Nutrimagen, got an acid reflux prescription, went to see a chiropractor, and would add as much white noise as possible. Moreover, he added that his daughters were with his parents for a few nights and that was the time he and his wife needed to "relax, regroup and reconnect."