Woman stands up for herself after sister-in-law repeatedly drops her child off for babysitting

It is a basic etiquette to inform someone before showing up at their home. Any person is bound to get disturbed by an uninvited guest, let alone by them dumping their work on the person. Reddit user u/childabandonment shared that she took quite an upfront stand when her sister-in-law repeatedly showed up unannounced and asked her to babysit her child. The woman explained that despite communicating with the sister-in-law, she was not paid heed, so she adopted a more firm approach. The woman shared that she had a half-brother, Enzo, who was married to a woman called Steph and had two kids, Alice and Teddy. She also mentioned that she also has a 3-year-old daughter.

After giving a background, the woman explained that Steph had the reckless habit of showing up at her house when she got pregnant. “It became a problem and I talked to both her and Enzo about it and she stopped until she gave birth,” the woman said. The woman then mentioned that Steph leaves her older daughter Alice at her house unannounced for babysitting. Undoubtedly, it was becoming a bother for the woman to take care of Alice without any preparation or information. “She’s had her carpool drop Alice off at my apartment before. My poor housekeeper is a wonderful woman who has had to deal with Alice arriving unexpectedly while I’m out and I feel terrible about it," the woman added.

She also mentioned that the concierge would leave the little girl in the lobby when told not to let her in when no one was home. The woman expressed, “Steph keeps saying she only does it when she’s desperate, but I don’t see how she can be that desperate to run errands at least twice a week and frankly, I’m not a nanny; if she’s desperate, she needs to hire some help.”

What wracked the woman’s nerves was when she found Alice in her house unannounced again since she had a half day at school. She tried calling up her parents but to no avail. The woman then decided to take a stand for herself. She said, “Steph eventually turned up a couple of hours later and I went ballistic. I said if she ever leaves Alice at my building again, I will call social services and I will call them every single time she drops Alice off with me until they do something." The woman clearly stated that Steph was in the wrong for being irresponsible and neglecting her kid. The woman then remained firm in her decision and refused to give in to Steph’s pointless pleas.

“Steph kept trying to guilt-trip me, but I was too exhausted and upset about the situation to be receptive and eventually my husband had to tell her to leave,” she said, “I feel bad because Enzo has never been anything but the most accommodating person where I’m concerned, but at the same time, I chose to have one kid because I don’t want another one and Steph can’t use my house as a daycare.” With over 18k upvotes, many parents and users understood where the woman was coming from. u/ultimateweather said, “She's being careless and her daughter is going to end up getting hurt by her mother's actions.” u/Far_Dependent_8975 said, “This woman is completely irresponsible, she did not hesitate to leave her child in the hall, it's horrible.”