Woman excludes friend from rock climbing outing because of her weight, sparks debate

Hanging out with a big group and finding activities that everyone can enjoy and participate in might not be an easy task all the time. But at the same time, it isn't ideal to exclude a friend or two if activities decided upon by the majority in the group do not suit them. A teen found herself in a tough situation when she went rock climbing with her friends group where one of their friends couldn't participate in the activity because of her weight. The girl, u/KlutzySpend7837 took to Reddit to share her story and get the internet's opinion on it.

There’s this new rock climbing center that just opened up at the mall. My group of eight friends were in town when I suggested we go try it out," the 17-year-old wrote. "However, when we got there, one of my friends was pulled aside and told to weigh herself." The girl shared how that friend is "technically obese." She added, "They told her that she couldn’t participate since she weighed too much for the harness." The friend was quite upset because of it and started crying. "She then asked the rest of us if we could do something else instead. However, everyone else really wanted to try rock climbing and we didn’t want to miss out because of one person," the girl went on.

"I said we could hang out with her after we finished but she just went straight home," the teen explained. "The next day, she texted us saying that we were fake friends for abandoning her and making her feel excluded for her weight." She continued, "She said I was selfish for even suggesting rock climbing without considering her weight because I’d assumed that she weighed enough for the equipment." The girl pointed out, "I told her that it wasn’t our fault that she wasn’t allowed in but she said the rest of us should’ve stood by her." She wondered if she was wrong in the situation. People took to the comments section to give their opinions.

u/riontach wrote, "If I'm understanding your post, you guys were already out together when you decided to try it. You could have gone and done something else when you found out one friend would be excluded and gone rock climbing on a different day without her. It's not like this was a dedicated trip for the purpose of rock climbing. And you really expected her to sit around alone and wait for you guys to finish? For real? It's pretty clear how little you value this friend." u/Future-AD7266 commented, "Teen years are difficult. I suspect the friend would probably feel equally upset and left out to find out that her friends did an activity without her (if they excluded her from the plans due to her weight). I’m saying this as someone who was an overweight teen."

u/PoppyandTarget remarked, "17-year-old brains aren't fully formed and confidence is usually at your life's rock bottom at this age. Maybe an older group of females would have chosen differently. These are a bunch of teens only thinking of themselves as teens are wired to do. Still, they are wrong." u/addanothernamehere expressed, "And ALL the girls went along with this? This looks like some cliquey bullying. NOBODY left with her? Not a single girl offered to do something else with her. Damn. Glad I’m not 17 anymore. That’s brutal. I hope that girl finds some better friends because that experience will LIVE with her."