A dating expert reveals many tips to gauge if someone likes you, without having to 'show your cards' and avoid embarrassment.
People can find the rules of dating to be unnecessarily complex. A big question that looms over a person's head when they like somebody is if the other person likes them back. Thankfully, TikTok relationship expert @britannyburr shared a super helpful video to find out if someone likes you without putting yourself in an embarrassing situation. The video has amassed a massive audience with 3.1 million views and 1040 comments on the social media site.
The woman starts the video by saying, "Let's talk about how to find out if someone likes you without having to show your cards and reveal that you like them first." She states how the common advice she gives to people is to be direct and ask someone if they reciprocate feelings of love. But sometimes, one cannot be direct for many reasons. She explains how in such cases, people could ask the other for a "one-on-one hangout."
The woman clarifies that her tip would not work if the duo in question had already hung out one-on-one. However, it would be ideal for individuals who saw their love interest in a group setting or at work. The woman points out how people could ask their love interest out based on their likes. She says, "You can message them later and say, 'Hey, did you wanna go check out a brewery together sometime?' or, 'Hey, do you wanna check out a show together?'"
Asking them in this manner would not feel "abrupt," and it is also not directly asking for a date. The other person would probably wonder if it was a date and either want to clarify how they feel about it or agree to the plan. Moreover, popping such a question creates the potential for couples to spend time together alone.
She provides her next tip regarding the actual question itself. The creator suggests that individuals avoid being too direct and instead ask something "adjacent." She explains how one could ask something that was much less risky, like, "Have you ever thought about the two of us romantically at all?" If the other person says, "No, have you?" the individual could reveal that it had crossed their mind at some point.
Alternatively, if they responded positively, individuals could ask them more questions about it. Her third tip involves asking people about their "actions." She mentions how this was also an indirect way to ask another person out. The woman gives out examples, "Hey, you've been reaching out a lot more lately, like what's up?" or, "You seem to be showing me a lot more attention lately, is there something up with that?" According to her, it was a good way to call out a potential attraction and see if the other person admitted to anything.
The woman's fourth tip is to get a friend's help. She cautions people not to make their friends ask too directly. Instead, they could say, "Hey, you guys are both single and you seem to have a really nice rapport. Have you ever thought about anything there?" Her final tip is for individuals to make statements that make their attraction to another person seem obvious. For example, when a love interest says something funny, individuals could respond, saying, "Wow, you're making it pretty impossible to not have a crush on you lately."
People liked the woman's advice but still seemed a bit nervous about broaching the topic with people they were attracted to, so they shared a couple of thoughts in the comments section. @katriffanyjenkins commented, "All the options seem really terrifying except for the friend tactic." @lilygrun shared, "My bf was like 'So do you like me?' and I was like 'Idk bro, I think so' and he was like 'Well, I like you,' and yeah, he's my boyfriend now."