The couple decided not to comply with societal expectations and did their wedding their own way, surrounded by their family and friends.
Weddings are one of the most special events in a couple's life. It is a celebration of their love and companionship in the presence of their close ones. Since a wedding is such an important affair, every couple should have the luxury to celebrate it how they deem fit. To encourage this practice, Elizabeth Hasier, a film wedding photographer who goes on TikTok by @ehasierphoto, has been sharing her own wedding experience on the platform. Hasier and Holden wanted to get married as soon as possible but did not have enough funds. Rather than wait till they could arrange for a wedding well-suited to societal demands, they went ahead and got married in a setting they wanted to, with the people they love.
Hasier, in her interview with Insider, talked about her dislike of the undue expectations associated with weddings, "Something that is stressful about weddings is all of the expectations guests bring. You're just putting all of your taste on display for a hundred people and hoping they like it." She added how creating this homespun affair helped the couple to "truly pull one over on people." However, they were not entirely successful as their friend Abby saw through their ruse.
Hasier's intent behind sharing the story was to assure other couples, "You can do whatever you want." They bought a house in Philadelphia and as it was their first home, it was very close to their heart. Considering its significance, the couple decided to marry there, the day when they were having their housewarming party.
The video features the couple announcing to their friends and family that they are getting married. Hasier begins by saying to everyone, "You all mean the world to us." Then she began to talk about how after buying the house, both she and her partner were left with no money. Hence, rather than waiting to have funds for an elaborate wedding, they have decided to "get married right now." The announcement was followed by the shocked and happy faces of all the guests.
The couple immediately went to their rooms to change and came out all decked up. Their living room became the wedding site. The ceremony started with their greyhound, Paul, strolling down the aisle, after which the couple read their vows. "It had been raining and then during our ceremony, the sun came out and it was magical," Hasier said. "Everyone was just sobbing." Instead of a traditional dinner, the couple went to a nearby speakeasy Hasier rented for $300. Their cake was prepared by a local baker, who had some photography work done in exchange for his services. The only hired assistance they had was for the photographer.
Hasier loved her unique arrangement because it stood out amongst the crowd of weddings she had to attend because of her profession as a wedding photographer. She wanted her wedding to stand out because a conventional arrangement would "almost feel like going to work." Their close ones also seemed to be happy, as the follow-up video showed all of them enjoying their hearts out in the impromptu event.
The video showed how the couple made the event their own by not following through with conventions. They cut their cake on top of pizza boxes, bonded with their neighbors who watched the wedding from their decks, had crocks instead of indulging in fine dining, played fun games and instead of sophisticated dances, they showed their moves all covered up in glitter.
The couple were also glad that the wedding brought them closer to the people around them. "I feel like we did this for our community as much as we did it for ourselves," Hasier said. "We were, like, if you come to this housewarming party, you will be rewarded with this really emotional night."
The comment section adored the whole arrangement. @ayeoitskale was elated for the couple, "Oh stop it! This is beautiful I’m crying for you. You have amazing friends. Congrats on your marriage." @anneid3 understood the whole message, "Doesn’t matter when or where. It matters with whom."