Here's what these women had to say about the outdated and deeply patriarchal tradition of taking one's husband's last name after marriage.
The deeply patriarchal concept of taking your husband's last name is one that has long been ingrained in our culture. The topic came up for discussion in a viral tweet a few years ago when Twitter user Omo Alade Alafia asked: "I'd really like to hear the reasoning behind women who won't take their husband's last name." Thousands of netizens weighed in on the subject, including Chrissy Teigen wrote: "I am not anti-taking the last name at all," she said. "I was going to. I just never got around to it and it isn't even the name he goes by. It wasn't some grand statement not to. I just don't see how the choice affects anyone else – why do people care so much!"
Here's what 25 other women had to say about the outdated "tradition":
my husband didn’t even take his last name? https://t.co/BMo6OsgcVv— chrissy teigen (@chrissyteigen) March 22, 2018
1. I'm a journalist & made my career on my name.— Georgia Lewis (@georgialewis76) March 22, 2018
2. Can't be arsed with bureaucracy of changing my name.
3. It's a tradition that's not for me.
4. I don't love my husband any less because I kept my name.
5. Men don't have to identify themselves by marital status so why should I? https://t.co/N4w5cV2JTs
I really love my last name :( , I'll take it but I don't wanna lose mine— shordie (@bleuribena) August 20, 2017
My name is my name, his name is his name— he calls me zaza (@zedasays) August 20, 2017
I didn't take my husband's last name and we've been happily married for nearly 17 years. If we'd chosen to have kids (yes, another choice, not a law), we would've given the kids both of our names. There's no need for women to lose their identities when they marry. #outdated— Jayna Rowden (@GEAUXJayna) March 22, 2018
it would feel like losing a part of myself. Also why should I take his and he not take mine .Who created this tradition ?Men did🚮— Gücci (@BlackCoffee_74) August 20, 2017
I just like my last name. Simple.— 🖤BORN TIRED🖤 (@AbbyLuscious_) August 20, 2017
I had too much business, legal, and personal, in my maiden name to dissuade me from changing it. It never mattered. Perk: I have a credit card in my maiden name, and a credit card in my married name. It’s no big deal. You get 1 SS #. It stays with you😘— Marty Jones (@JonesMartyha) March 22, 2018
it's my Ph.D, not his lmfao https://t.co/9JEG6koGhp— ass crack bandit (@ass_crackbandit) March 22, 2018
Paperwork. And new social. And with new social, new ID new drivers license new bank accountinfonewnumberstoremembernewsignituretopracticenewwaytointroduceyourselfnewblablabla...— blank (@monster_dnd) March 22, 2018
Skip all that. Keep what you got.
I keep meaning to take my husband's. I like it a lot. It's waaaay fancier sounding than mine. I'm not a fancy person who is "organized" and can "get shit done," though, so we're celebrating our 8th anniversary this year with different names. Whatever.— Tenletters (@Tenletters) March 22, 2018
Seriously. I got halfway through the process and quit.— Ms. McPoopson (@ElleMcPoopson) March 22, 2018
My husband‘s last name was his stepdad‘s stepdad‘s last name. AND the first name “Rain“ does not go with very many last names, especially my husband’s (Slaughter). But even so: I would probably have kept mine because I see no good reason to change identities because I married.— Rain Perry (@rainperry) March 22, 2018
My last name is my history.— Swan (@Grendelrocks) March 22, 2018
all of my life accomplishments are connected to my last name. Why does getting married overrule all of my hard work?— Lalenya (@kwinnit) March 22, 2018
Why wouldn’t I want to take a man’s last name? Cause he’s marrying me, not adopting me? Duh. My last name works just fine. Thanks.— Kristy (@geekhausen) March 22, 2018
Kept mine because I am my own person. But I tell my husband it is to keep my options open, that he is my *current* husband.— SoniaJ (@sj_ca1867) March 22, 2018
1. I like my name— Jess (@adventures_jess) March 22, 2018
2. I’m too lazy to do all the paperwork
3. This isn’t 1952
BOOOOOOOOOOOOMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM.— Shinjini Das (@SpeakerShinjini) July 4, 2020
Because no one can eclipse my sun honey. You must step to the side and stand beside me and not in front of me. My equal not my owner.— Doreen (@DoreenGLM) August 21, 2017
Is part of my identity and dilutes my pre wife accomplishments, felt taking hubby name devalues me, independence, identity and successes— Keri-Lynn Power (@LadyJusticeNL) August 26, 2017
It honestly never occurred to me to take his name. I'm still the same person. Why would I change my name?— Robynn (@woollythinker) August 23, 2017
Your question doesn't make sense worldwide or cross-culturally . Women in other countries might ask "why WOULD you give up your own name?"— three executive dysfunctions in a trenchcoat 🐢 (@TheEmmelineMay) August 23, 2017
I'm not working my ass off for 9+ years for people to call me Dr Someone-Else's-Name https://t.co/mthIQq7Zw1— Anjali. (@Anjalaaay) March 23, 2018
For me, two big reasons:— Jessica K. Willett, MD (@jkwillettmd) March 22, 2018
1. I'm the only one left in my family with my last name so the family name dies when I get married if I give it up.
2. I built my career & reputation as Dr. Willett and that's how I'm known in circles. I don't want to have to get "re-known". https://t.co/xnVWlFzQnZ