Women share 10 important lessons they learned that changed the rest of their lives for the better

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There's always a life lesson one learns or is told that always sticks with them. Though it may not initially make sense, somewhere down the line, things begin to align and one understands what that particular insight means. Whether it's about relationships, faith, lifestyle, modesty or even partying and recipes, women enjoy the privilege of getting secrets, advice, tips and tricks intertwined with their lives and living. Wouldn't it be nice to have these passed down to other women? u/No_Grape_263 shared a post on Reddit asking women to share the best life lessons they have learned and many comments flooded the post. Right from family, career and dressing, women have touched quite profound and relatable subjects.

1. Trust your gut 

Trust your gut instincts. It has gotten me out of so many situations that could have ended badly. I'm working really hard on trusting my instincts. If something feels wrong, I remind myself that the feeling didn't come out of nowhere. u/Latinboob. I found something that said if it's a thought followed by a feeling (fear, distrust, etc), it might be paranoia. However, if it's a feeling followed by a thought, that is probably instinct. My subconscious is picking up information that I haven't put together yet, but the pattern is looking like danger. u/DragonflyWing

2. Quit ignoring the red flags 

If someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. Normally, red flags are shown very early but many women choose to ignore them because they don’t think it’ll be that big of a deal later or because we want to be empathetic so we make excuses for their behavior. This quote is basically like, “They’re showing you who they are—they’re showing you those red flags. Don’t make excuses for them. They will keep showing these red flags over and over and over again, so just believe them the first time.” u/bambam_baby

3. Take control of your life

Never ever allow yourself to become a passenger in your own life. Don't allow anyone to put you in a position where they control your mental, physical or financial security. u/voxetpraetereanihill. It took me at the age of 35 to finally get it after all the different circumstances I have been through. I realized I really needed to take responsibility for a lot of the situations I put myself in. Inner reflection can be hard sometimes. u/Psychological_Pipe

4. Speak up for yourself

Don’t be afraid to speak up when you’re being treated poorly. Find doctors who actually listen to and respect you because a lot of them won’t take your issues as seriously as a man coming to them. Realize that you’ll be put into boxes sometimes as a woman and you have to break those stereotypes/assumptions and tell those people to f**k off, not literally but with your actions of what you’re capable of. u/misbehavinggamegirl

5. Watch and learn 

Never trust a person who treats restaurant staff or customer service people poorly. If they treat others like that, the only reason they aren't treating you that way is because they want something. u/LadyLikesSpiders. If they are 'good' to you, but treat others poorly - they will eventually treat you poorly too. You aren't special - they just haven't yet reached that point with you, but it will absolutely happen if you stick around long enough. u/embracing_insanity

6. Focus on building your financial stability 

Make your own money because it allows you to make your own decisions. u/JaDeDCDN. Never let anyone handle your finances. You can be in a joint account situation or whatever. But never let anyone have full control. Learn about investing early. Be smart with your choices. Prioritize a career that gives you financial flexibility. Money does buy happiness. Especially with the housing crisis we face and inflation and healthcare costs. You can instead make money fast and early for the first 10-15 years after college and then be able to relax and spend the rest of your life without worry. u/rofosho 

7. Quality over quantity 

Choose your friends wisely and don’t be afraid of being alone than have unsupportive people. Many people will go to great lengths to hurt you out of jealousy. u/broccolicares. Adding on that, people hate things they don't understand. u/No_Blackberry_6286. Agreed. It's sad how some grown-a** adults behave like jealous middle school children. Learned to pick up on red flags and trust my gut with running into these types throughout my life. u/matchaphile 

8. Safety first 

It's okay to be rude sometimes, sometimes you have to in order to get your point across or to get someone to leave you alone. u/Midnightfirehuntress. Do what you can to be safe. If that's running away or fawning or freezing like it sucks because people always want us to fight back (in my case, I want that also) but at the end of the day, do whatever you can to be safe. u/the100thwitch. Sometimes men will only take no for an answer if you are rude about it. That's facts. -u/spooookyskeletonz

9. Vouch for yourself

Don't look for validation from other people/outside. You are enough! If you have healthy friendships, nurture them. Never throw your good friendships under the bus for a relationship. Be kind to other women (some women are so cruel to their fellow women and it's sad to see). u/AlenaFallon. People will take advantage of you every chance they get. Your parents, siblings and significant other. You are alone and only you can love and care about yourself. u/LilChisai

10. Independence and kindness

Independence. If you drive a car regularly, learn to change the tire and jump-start it. Learn the basics of cooking. Learn that most other people, women included, do not have your best interest at heart all the time. Learn that you don't need to do something just because everyone else does it, you should only do it if you want to. Learn to be kind, not be a b**ch. Learn to judge men the same as you would judge yourself or a fellow woman. Learn to forgive yourself. Learn to do better over time. Learn that there's no such thing as being perfect, and that's okay. u/MiloAisbroodjKaas