Women are sharing why they only order 'Doordash' from their boyfriend’s phone — and it’s lifesaving advice
'I ended up changing my name on apps to the masculine version of my name,' a woman shared.
A woman (u/long-chicken) who usually orders from delivery apps noticed a shocking pattern: whenever she and her boyfriend ordered from her account, the delivery drivers would refuse to follow the 'leave at door' instruction. The outrageous post, shared on Reddit in August 2025, made other women talk about their experiences on the platform, emphasizing how gendered dynamics can influence everyday interactions and go so far as to cause safety issues.
The woman and her partner live in a small apartment with a well-lit front door, she said, explaining that there is no reason a driver shouldn't be able to follow the request. However, more than half of the time, the delivery guy would stand outside and text her repeatedly. "They stand outside for 5 minutes... buzz, call, and harass me trying to get me to come down. It can be scary to have to meet a random man when I’m home alone," she wrote.
Ordering through her boyfriend's account is much easier, she mentioned. "When we order through my boyfriend’s name, there has never once been an issue. They honor the instructions and leave it just as instructed." To analyze the situation better, she changed her name on her account to her boyfriend's name, and unsurprisingly, hasn't faced such problems since. "I have seen other women online discussing having this problem as well. Is it truly that drivers are creeps and want to see what we look like? I can’t think of any other reason why this would happen. Should I report drivers who refuse to follow the instructions? Does anyone else share this experience?" the woman asked.
Unfortunately, we have been seeing an increase in cases related to sexual harassment involving delivery drivers. In fact, when ITV News, via Freedom of Information, asked 45 police departments across the UK about crimes involving delivery drivers, only 18 police departments had it recorded. They also found that the West Midlands was the area where most crimes involving drivers happen, i.e., 12 cases of sexual harassment by delivery drivers were reported between 2020 and 2023.
Reacting to her post, many women who have had similar encounters shared how changing their names helped them cope with such situations. For instance, u/mantequillas42 commented, "My fiancé and I have similar experiences. If he’s with me, I let him go answer the door, and he generally gets a scared or disappointed reaction. If it’s just me alone, I don’t answer the door, no matter how insistent they are. A thing that has happened several times is I’ve gotten the picture for proof of a man’s hand holding my food in the air in front of my door as they keep knocking, and those I report, as it’s always creeped me out. I am about to change my name to his on all my delivery accounts now, though!" u/ok-imagination2322 said, "This happened to me all the time; one time the guy waited, and when I didn’t come out, he got in his car and parked on the street corner and waited. It was so scary. I changed it to my uncle's name about 3 months ago and haven’t had an issue since; they drop it off and leave immediately."
Another woman, u/erinstarkn, who had a similar experience, commented, "This legit happened to me; some guy (with a woman’s voice in the BG) said he needed me to come outside to confirm it was me. I told him no, he doesn’t lol. He tried asking like 3 times, and it was very uncomfortable, especially given my BF was not home."
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