Woman's confusion over this universal dating dilemma sparks debate about romantic etiquette

When it comes to dating, people often have different perspectives and opinions. Connecting with people online and initiating dates is a dance with unspoken “dating rules” that those involved are expected to follow. A woman named McCall Capozzi (@mccallcapozzi) shared how confusion ensued with a guy she met online when these rules got a bit hazy and how things faded before they could even start. The woman’s story sparked a debate among several people about dating etiquette and who plays what role when it comes to initiating a date. “I have a question for you guys because I feel like the opinions on this are divided,” Capozzi said. 

Recounting her story, Capozzi revealed that she matched with a guy on a dating app and the duo got to texting. After a few conversations, the guy asked whether she’d like to go out, to which the woman agreed. After settling on a day, the duo went on to discuss details for the same as any other date. She shared a screenshot of their exchange, which began with Capozzi confirming the day. The exchange was followed with the man’s agreement to the same and an added suggestion for a place to meet. After all the details were planned, one would anticipate the day and prepare for the same. However, there’s more that went on in this waiting period.

Capozzi then revealed, “But this was last Wednesday.” The woman then mentioned that she didn’t wish to follow up on the plan as she hoped the guy would do so. However, she was skeptical about whether that would be a good idea and added that several influencers and other women on social media shared that they weren’t on board to follow up. “I also like to give people the benefit of the doubt. I think he may be assuming we have plans or something,” she said. “I just think people have very strong opinions on this, what do you think I should do?” Capozzi asked. 

People did in fact, have strong opinions. While half the spectrum was adamant that she not follow up, the rest were casual and suggested that it was just a matter of a text and shouldn’t be that much of a deal. @sammmygr wrote, “I think people overthink it. Just send him a text, who cares?” @caseycohen added, “Why can’t you text him and why are people agreeing that you shouldn’t text him? Just say, ‘8 still good?’ and get the mystery over.” @dropit.lolo said, “They may not be a texter and that’s fine but they should have the decency to confirm the day before or the day of.”

@brooshie13 commented, “I don’t put heat on my hair unless they confirm.” @emma_weigers wrote, “Do not text. That makes it look like you’re waiting around on him.” Sharing more, the woman revealed that she took an alternative approach, reports Newsweek. She said, “I rain-checked, and then he asked if I was free the following Monday. I said yes, and he said 'Sounds good, see you then' but then once again never followed up to confirm the place or time, so no concrete plans were made. And at that point, I just felt like he wasn't great at taking initiative and I lost interest and never responded.”

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