Woman wonders if she is unreasonable for telling her husband to cancel his trip for their newborn

Becoming a mom can be both exciting and overwhelming for most women. At this stage, they might want their partners to support them so the journey becomes a bit easier. But sometimes, it might get really challenging to explain that to a partner. A new mom, u/Foreign-Ostrich8937, found herself in a situation where she had to ask her husband to cancel his "bros-only trip" because their daughter was just two months old. She took to Reddit to ask if she was being unreasonable with the request.

"I gave birth to our first child, Olivia, two months ago. Being a first-time mom has been both beautiful and overwhelming," the 30-year-old shared. "My husband, Jake, was incredibly supportive during the pregnancy and promised that after Olivia was born, he would be there for me every step of the way, especially during those challenging first few months." Before the baby was born, the man had started planning a week-long trip with his friends for the summer to do activities they liked and bond with each other. "When the trip was being discussed, I reminded Jake that Olivia would only be a few months old, and we would be deep in the newborn phase. He reassured me that if things got too tough, he would cancel the trip to help me and I trusted him," the mom recounted. 

"Now that Olivia is here, things have been harder than I anticipated. Between the sleepless nights, breastfeeding struggles, and just trying to adjust to motherhood, I've been feeling overwhelmed," the woman expressed. "Jake has been helpful, but I can tell he's excited about this trip, which is coming up next month." She continued, "Last week, I asked Jake if he could consider canceling the trip, reminding him of his promise. I told him I was struggling and that having him gone for a whole week would be really tough on me." The dad seemed hurt that he was being asked to cancel his trip. He said he had been planning the trip for months and needed a break too. 

"He also pointed out that his parents live nearby and could help if I needed support while he was away. I understand that Jake needs a break and wants to spend time with his friends, but I can't help feeling like this is a time when I really need him by my side," the woman pointed out. The woman explained all this to her husband, but he felt it was unfair to ask him to cancel a trip he had been looking forward to for months. He told her, "I need to trust him to make sure I'm supported even if he's not physically there." The couple had an argument and when she shared the matter with her friends, they had mixed opinions about the situation. However, people took to the comments to support the woman.

u/Arjvoet wrote, "Seriously, shouldn’t she be getting a break first? This guy is lame." u/EmceeSuzy commented, "Jake is infantile. Now she has two children and I can't help but wonder if people who know them both are actually surprised by any of this." u/sewingpedals remarked, "My spouse and I are expecting our second child soon and have agreed that neither of us will go on a trip for about a year. It’s a total a****** move to plan a week-long trip for just a few months postpartum." In an update, the woman shared that she had a heart-to-heart conversation with her husband. They both shared their fears of being a new parent and the trauma attached to it. He later saw that he was wrong and canceled the trip.