Her boyfriend's family kept mocking her weight. When his mom made a snide remark, she finally snapped and walked out

Making comments about someone’s body is never okay. There are so many people silently struggling, trying to accept their bodies for what they are or even trying to make changes. A woman who goes by u/sunnydaisywhisk on Reddit was frustrated with her boyfriend’s family constantly making remarks about her weight. When the ignorant family persisted to a point where his mom gave her a smaller piece of pie, she had had enough. She decided to take a stand for herself and walked right out. According to Redditors reacting to her November 11 post, she did the right thing. 

The 26-year-old mentioned that she had been dating the man for a year. While the family was generally polite, she was disturbed by the mom constantly making rude comments that “crossed the line.” “Things like asking if I ‘really need seconds’ or making remarks about my clothes being ‘snug,’” were some of the statements she recalled. She often tried to brush it off and be the bigger person since everyone took it lightly. “I usually just smile or change the topic to keep the peace because my boyfriend always says she ‘doesn’t mean anything by it,’” she said. However, these prolonged remarks can have a significant impact on a person, in addition to being disrespectful. 

Dr. Lauren Muhlheim, a certified eating disorder specialist and director of Eating Disorder Therapy LA, noted that it’s not okay to make comments on someone’s body or weight, per Aaptiv. “I don’t think it’s ever okay to comment on someone’s weight. Why do we assume that losing weight is good and gaining weight is bad?” she asked. She explained how these words can have a lasting impression on people and catch them off guard. “In people who are sensitive or predisposed to eating disorders, these comments really stick,” the specialist added. No one knows what went through the woman’s mind, but when the mom overdid it, she decided not to take it anymore. 

While having dinner with the family, the mom found another opportunity to demean her. “His mom brought out a pie and said, loud enough for everyone to hear, that maybe I should get a smaller slice so I don’t ruin my diet,” she recalled. It must have been awkward and embarrassing, and though everyone except her laughed at the moment, it was still not taken lightheartedly. The woman requested a regular slice and, after a few minutes, excused herself. Despite handling the situation calmly, her partner still put her in the wrong, saying that she embarrassed him and made his mom feel bad. “I told him she’s been disrespectful for months and I’m tired of pretending it’s okay."

Unfortunately, the man wasn’t able to understand and called her “sensitive.” Furthermore, he suggested she apologize for being “rude” to his mom. In a comment, the woman expressed that what hurt her more was that her partner sat and laughed while the mom made the comment instead of backing her up. “I just felt so uncomfortable I had to leave,” she said.

Redditors assured her she was at no fault and did the right thing by standing up for herself. u/Els-the-World said, “Offer her this apology. 'Sorry for being the target of your rudeness. Again.'” u/CoDaDeyLove added, “YOU made his mom feel bad? The whole family is clueless and rude.” u/Character_Goat_6417 remarked, “You have just learned what the rest of your life is going to be like if you stay with this dumbass.”

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