Woman stands up to father after he insults her boyfriend for being a stay-at-home dad

Sometimes, a person's parents may not agree with their decisions or may make things difficult for them or their partner. In such cases, they might need to stand up to their parents, even if it comes off as rude. One woman had to confront her father for repeatedly belittling her boyfriend. However, her parents felt she was being harsh toward her own dad. As a result, the woman, u/Jammonnitt, turned to Reddit to share the incident and seek advice from others.

"I recently had a baby with my boyfriend of three years, Nick. I work as a nurse with crazy hours and Nick previously worked in a warehouse," the woman shared. They decided it would be best for him to stay home with the baby for the first couple of years. Nick chose this path because his own father was absent in his life, and they believed it would be best for their family. However, the woman comes from a conservative family, and her parents were not happy about the couple having a baby before marriage. "My dad has made little hints here and there to Nick asking when is he 'going to make me an honest woman.' When I told them Nick would stay at home with the baby, my dad took his glasses off, wiped his forehead and shook his head, but he did not say anything further."

"Recently at a family function, my cousin announced that she is pregnant! Everyone was giving her and her husband congratulations," the girlfriend recalled. Her dad, however, made a snide remark about how the woman could talk to her boyfriend to learn about baby duties. The boyfriend awkwardly chuckled and let it slide. Later that day, when the baby needed a diaper change and the woman was about to do it, the dad made another rude comment. "My dad said to us, 'Woah isn’t that Nick’s role? You do nothing while my daughter works. You can at least change a diaper while she is with her folks,'" she recounted. At that point, the woman had heard enough. "I told my dad to stop with his remarks. Nick is an EQUAL partner in our relationship and he is a wonderful dad who does most of the childcare. I told him just because he did f*** all of the child-rearing for me and my siblings that does not mean all men need to be like him," she revealed.

Things became awkward after that, with the woman's mom quickly changing the subject. Later, the dad asked her to apologize for disrespecting him in front of the family. "I told him I had nothing to apologize for and I was tired of him picking on Nick. My mom agrees with my father that I was too harsh on my dad," the post concluded. In response, people flooded the comments section to show their support for the woman. u/Any_Dragonfruit4130 wrote, "Your dad is a chauvinist and probably a misogynist too. His attitude needs an adjustment. He will probably never change. You will have to. You need to set boundaries and stay with them. If he steps over then let him deal with the consequences. I think you should tell your parents that you and them need a little apart time. Discuss with BF and sit down with them and have a discussion."

u/myglasswasbigger commented, "When mom got divorced we moved in with her parents. My grandfather was a welder all his life but would spend hours rocking my baby brother and humming to him when he was an infant. Men who are truly confident in their masculinity don't have to pose." u/Glum_Designer_4754 remarked, "Macho-type guys don't balk at taking care of their kids and aren't insecure. Dad is childish if he thinks he needs to be respected regardless of his behavior. Tell him that's the way it is and he can change or not affect your child with his petty attitude."