Woman stands up for herself after sister who inflicted years of abuse on her makes a selfish demand

Blended situations are difficult for everyone in the family. In such a situation, it is crucial that everyone functions with love and maturity. Unfortunately, u/Successful_Detail321 did not get this courtesy from her half-sister. She was constantly subjected to toxic behavior from the elder one throughout her childhood. Now, all of a sudden, she has been invited to her sister's wedding. But the woman has taken the call to refuse. It has not been taken positively by their mother, who thinks this is an opportunity to improve their relationship. But, the woman is clear that the relationship is too broken to mend. As per the woman, it is not worth enough to put herself through the presence of a person who has humiliated and hurt her always.

The 17-year-old woman began her post by giving some context about her relationship with her sister. She wrote, "My half-sister and I share a mom. She's 9 years older than me. Her dad died when she was 5. Mom remarried my dad when she was 8 and got pregnant with me straight away." For her entire childhood, she craved a relationship with her half-sister. She put the sister on a pedestal despite being on the receiving end of horrible behavior. Not only that, the half-sister also behaved horribly with her father. The hate was so strong that she called the father by mean names in front of everyone.

Even when the family was going through a hard time, she did not leave her toxicity aside. She explained, "When I was 6, my brother was stillborn when mom was about 6 months pregnant with him. She had grandma come over to watch my half-sister and me while she was in the hospital and we were told something happened to our brother. I was really upset because I had been so excited and wanted comfort from my half-sister." In such a situation, she said to a 10-year-old that she wished the same fate had happened to her. 

The grandmother was taken aback and reprimanded her for this. But this did not affect her. The straw that broke the camel's back happened on Christmas. The sister straight up told her during the celebrations that "she didn't give a f**k about me or my life and did not want me to know anything about hers. She called me pathetic and asked why she would care about someone like me." Since then, the woman has maintained a distance with her half-sister.

Recently, the half-sister got engaged and is preparing for her marriage. To avoid unnecessary questions, she invited the woman. The woman downright refused. Her reasoning was simple, "She wants me dead, I don't want her in my life, it's as simple as that." The mother is unhappy because she thinks this is an opportunity to bring the family together and the sister is angry. The woman does not think she is wrong but is surprised by her mother's reaction. She came to Reddit to ask for a third-party opinion.

The comments section supported her. u/tfcavalier applauded her for handling the situation with maturity and wrote, "NTA. She's using you as a pawn. I wouldn't go either. I'd consider having a discussion with your mother and explain to her why exactly you have made this decision. You don't want that relationship damaged." 

u/CartographerHot2285 commented, "NTA. Your mom should've obligated your sister to keep seeing you and your dad. Now that your sister needs something, it's suddenly you who has to be the bigger person. It also doesn't sound like your sister had a change of heart. She just doesn't want to seem like the bad person she is. If she genuinely had a change of heart and was making a proper effort, I'd try, but not like this..."