Woman shares why she thinks stepdads and stepmoms are treated differently and it resonates with many

Stepdads and stepmoms have to bear the brunt of society's misjudgment often but a stepmom gets the majority of hate compared to a stepdad while raising their partner's kids. Megan (@m_gowerr on TikTok) recently made a video to address this issue on the internet. "Nobody understands how mentally and emotionally draining it is to be a stepmom," Megan begins in her video. "Stepdads are always treated like heroes, like they swooped in and took in the child that wasn't theirs but a stepmom is always seen as a villain," she adds. 

Megan adds how stepmoms are often treated as someone who "broke up a family" and is an intruder. Biological parents complain about how hard it is to be a parent but if a stepmom complains then she is considered "awful." Society might tell them to leave the man and the kids but Megans speaks on their behalf and says that "they chose the life, the man and the kids." "We chose the heartache that came with it. It takes a village to raise a child so why can't a stepmom be a part of that village?" she questions. She then concludes by mentioning how so many stepmoms bottle up their feelings behind closed doors because according to society, they are not supposed to have feelings. The TikTok community spoke in Megan's favor as well.

@arroganttayy wrote: "They see it they just don’t care. Some bio moms feel intimidated that their child is loving another woman or even if they are a better influence on the child." @thewitchmarie commented: "2 of my kid's moms passed away. Their bio mom was abusive to them and my husband. When we got married others mentioned I would never compare to her. Not like I’d want to because I want to show that man and those babies love. But it’s crazy living in the shadow of a dead person." @idaaornelas quipped: "I’ve been both step and bio and I just think that sometimes our stepmoms overstep."

@jmereddss remarked: "This is why you don’t date a person with kids if you are going to have these bottled-up feelings and what seems to be resentment." @seniaa_00 noted: "I hate calling my stepmom my stepmom because she chose to raise me and I love her like my mom because she was when my bio mom wasn’t. I go to her now more as an adult than I go to the one that birthed me. Good stepmoms aren’t given enough credit. You can tell when there’s real love there." @felicacraig90 added: "My stepkids are told they aren’t allowed to hug or snuggle me so anytime we are around other female friends of ours they are so snuggly with them because they aren’t allowed to be with me."

Well, not every stepmom is a Disney villain whose sole purpose is to wreck the life of their stepkids. This angelic stepmom decided to stand up for her transgender stepson who has been treated horribly since coming out by his dad. u/Resident-Step-2917 shared her story with the Reddit community about how her 13-year-old stepson recently came out as trans to her and her husband. While the stepmother was very understanding and supportive, his father "was not open to it." Moreover, he constantly brought his spirit down with mean tactics. Some of which were using "she/her pronouns when referring to him and talking to him."

The stepmom has warned him that this "treatment of his son is only going to blow back on him later but he's convinced that 'it's just a phase.'" Unfortunately, this situation is more hard on the son, as the father is his primary guardian. The boy wanted to get a haircut and as a last resort, he went to his stepmother. Though hesitant at first, she supported him. She wrote: "I couldn't look at this child who has been treated so horribly since coming out and just wants to feel more comfortable in his identity and say no." The woman stood by the boy's side and took him to a barber shop, fulfilling his wish. 

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