Woman shares why she refuses to bow down to society's pressure of having a 'wedding'

Weddings have always been sold as a 'dream' to every girl in the world. They have been made to believe that it is one of the biggest events of their lives that needs to happen for their existence to have meaning. The pressure of it has become so overwhelming that many women have now begun to get disgruntled by the whole concept. Lark—who goes by @knaakwell on TikTok—is one of them. In her video, she shares how she does believe in the institution of marriage but doesn't have the same loyalty to the whole shebang that is the "wedding." Her reasoning is based on aspects like personal choice and the undue financial as well as mental burden the whole event throws the couple's way.

Lark begins the video by sharing her intentions. She wants to put into the world an unpopular opinion she holds about weddings. The big ring on her finger immediately gives away that she is engaged and her unpopular opinion is that weddings are somewhat overrated. She begins her explanation by stating how this opinion has been shaped by her personal views and circumstances. "I am a very anxious person," Lark shared, "I simply cannot imagine standing up there on the altar and having the most intimate moment of my life with my partner while all these eyes are on us."

At a wedding, the couple is always the center of attention. Lark here elucidates how she personally doesn't feel comfortable in the spot. Therefore, in her mind, there is no use in arranging for an event where she herself will feel out of place. She does not want to put herself through a mental turmoil like that on the most special day of her life. "Anytime that I have attended a wedding when it comes to the part to like exchange vows and kiss, to me it feels like when you're watching a movie with your parents and a sex scene comes on. It feels so uncomfortable, you want to look away," Lark added.

The bride-to-be goes on to reveal her plans. "We'll have our elopement and then we'll come home. We'll have a party afterward with friends and family," she said. Thereafter she goes on to tackle the 'family' aspect of it all. The popular opinion is that wedding is not only a way for a couple to celebrate their togetherness but also for families to bond with each other. For Lark personally, this is not the hill she wants to die on. She elucidated about her family, "I love my parents and I love my family. But, I am not super close to them and this is just how I feel." The woman does not want to spend one of the most important days of her life constantly dealing with the 'stress' as well as the 'anxiety' that her family and their personal dynamics bring to the table. She knows it is a huge task to juggle these relationships at a wedding and simply isn't interested in taking that load.

Thereafter, she pointed to the 'money' factor. Weddings are a billion-dollar industry because people keep throwing money toward making a single day of their lives perfect while ignoring the rest of it, something Lark is not willing to do in her own life. "My fiancee and I want to buy a house, so that's my priority over having some big extravagant wedding," she shared. Her circumstances in life are not such that she can have both a 'wedding' as well as a 'marriage' and she is choosing the latter. She is completely understanding of people who do want this celebration, but it is just not her cup of tea. It does not align with her values. The pressure of having a wedding is slowly but surely irritating her. She signs off with, "Wedding culture is f*****g weird."

The comment section did not find her opinion 'unpopular' at all. @actionpotentials_ shared the same reservations as Lark and wrote, "I’ve always felt like walking down the aisle will be the most embarrassing moment of my life." @hippiedippienellie commented about their own plans, "We’re doing private vows and first look. Our actual ceremony will be super short."