Even though it seems like mothers have it under control, they're drowning in exhaustion and society terms it as 'mom rage.'
Being a mother is one of the most beautiful yet challenging roles to ace in the world. Nothing can fully prepare a person to be a mother and there is much that is learned along the way. Often, when the journey of motherhood gets tough, emotions cause moms to react in a way that many term “mom rage.” Over the years, this has become a typical term assigned to mums and many of them are associated with mom rage as a characteristic. Elizabeth Ward—who goes by @diaryofanhonestmom on TikTok—shared the reality of what the world calls “mom rage,” and she makes a strong case for why it’s nowhere close to its title. “Maybe it’s not mental health or mom rage,” the text overlay reads.
“Maybe it’s not mom rage. Maybe it’s just that mom’s doing everything for everyone and having less of her needs met than anyone in the house,” Elizabeth said. She continued listing why mothers react aggressively or sternly and pointed out that it has more to do than simply anger. Ward further pointed out how the challenges of motherhood are often borne by mothers all by themselves. “This is motherhood and you have to deal with it,” she said, echoing the words of society. Elizabeth then highlighted, “That anger is valid and necessary.”
She elaborated, “We need to stop treating all anger that comes from women and moms as if it’s a mental issue.” She stressed the need to allow moms to feel, express and “be angry about things that are unfair and unequal.” Moving back to society’s unrealistic expectations of a perfect mother, Elizabeth pointed out, “Society has given an impossible standard to achieve. Work luck, you don’t have a kid; mother luck, you don’t have a job.” The woman adds to the ruthless picture that is painted in the hunt for the perfect mom. She said, “Carry the mental load, be the default parent, be the accessible childcare option, lack of maternity leave, unequal access to healthcare, being expected to do it all and never need a break.”
The list doesn't end there; Ward continues to rant about how society and family members underappreciate even so much hard work. Additionally, many moms are also gaslighted into thinking they’re being angry in vain. “You’re upset because you’re exhausted and you’re tired because it’s tiring,” the woman remarked before stating that the entire concept of “mom rage” is “not a character flaw but a social issue that needs to be fixed.” Plenty of fellow mothers agreed with what Elizabeth had to say. Many moms added to the rant with their stories. @yourhemigurl said, “It makes me furious. I am exhausted all the time. Zero of my needs met—pulled in a billion directions.” @fruitfulbotanicals said, “And when you try to vent your frustrations, others have to one-up you and invalidate you.” @carwal128 said, “I hear a lot of, ‘This is what you signed up for right?’ Thank you for being you!”