Woman shares the importance of having healthy arguments in a relationship and it's eye-opening

Arguments are an inevitable part of a relationship. After all, as humans, we are bound to have opinions and are often tempted to put them forward during conversations. However, in the case of relationships, stating one's opinions can at times end up in heated arguments which may even lead to bad consequences. Gia Aldisert—who goes by @giaaldisert on TikTok—is well-known for her relationship advice videos and shared some of the best ways for couples to navigate through an argument. Emphasizing that having arguments is healthy, Aldisert, in this viral video, talks about how couples can keep their cool during arguments.

Aldisert's words of wisdom were inspired by her own experiences of being in a relationship for over 6 years. She clarified at the beginning of the video saying, "First of all, it is completely normal to get into arguments with your partner. If anything is healthy. It shows that you guys are both actively communicating and expressing your feelings." With that affirmation, the influencer began her advice. Firstly, she highlighted that giving "silent treatment" to one's partner was toxic during an argument because "nothing good ever comes out of not communicating." She then said that going into defense mode without hearing out the partner's side of the argument was a no-go in relationships.

The next thing on her not-to-do list was "trying to be the victim in every situation too much." Having said what not to do, Aldisert then explained the best ways to navigate disagreements. "You should be communicating over the phone or in person, but try to avoid texting. Text messages can easily be interpreted incorrectly, so it's just good to avoid it," she said. In case of a heated argument, the influencer suggested that the couples could have some alone time to "regroup and calm" their temper. She pointed out how she often regretted bursting out in anger. "You never wanna yell in your arguments," Aldisert said. "We can just be calmly talking about this maturely. There's no need to be scolding one another."

Rather than pointing out what the other person did to you, Aldisert said that starting the conversation by saying, "I feel this way because..." could be much more effective. She also emphasized the importance of taking time to listen to one's partner and asking them why they feel a certain way so that one could identify a major root cause that might be creating the problem. This way the partner would not only feel heard but also realize that the person cares enough. Aldisert asked couples to avoid calling names during an argument and also to have notes about their opinions so that they don't carry any emotional baggage later. "Sometimes my boyfriend and I like to switch off talking. So I talk for one minute with no interruption and then he responds for one minute with no interruption," she said.

While having arguments is healthy for couples, taming their emotions, as per Aldisert is crucial. This viral video gained over 2 million views and many in the comments agreed with her. "Notice how we learn this attitude in kindergarten to like the 3rd grade and aren't applying it when we get older," commented @plvtosmom. "You're so right about the silent treatment because he'd always say, 'You leave right when I need you, right when I need a little reassurance,' I hope I'm learning," wrote @evscameraroll. "Discussions are healthy, but arguments are toxic. People confuse the two often. You're giving great advice on turning an argument into a discussion," commented @howser87.