She calls out a male content creator, widely followed, who expressed problematic views blaming women for setting the bar too low.
The internet is full of videos about how to become a better partner. From attachment styles to love languages to healing our own traumas, all this help is just a click away. However, every now and then a content creator gives some advice that stirs a debate on social media platforms. This happened when a woman on TikTok after she discussed the difference between "mediocre men" and "good men." She also discussed how women have lower standards these days and it helps mediocre men a lot. Laura Danger—who goes by @thatdarnchat on TikTok— goes by speaking about a male content creator who is widely followed and how he had expressed some problematic views. When Danger called him out, she received a lot of backlash from the internet.
The male content creator had blamed women for having lower standards and the bar is "on the floor" and that is where they have "left it." He had commented on this in one of Danger's videos where she had said that women are taught to have low expectations from men. "Here's what I said: the bar is in hell because mediocre men benefit from the abuse of the sh---y ones," Danger discussed. She also discussed another content creator who suggested that men can make the lives of women easier by cleaning up after themselves. "I said cleaning up after yourself is not making her life easier unless it was making her life hard in the first place," she said. She added that the men who do the bare minimum should not be the standard women look for in relationships.
"How are these the 'good guys?'" Danger asked. "How is it that the standard for a good guy is this low? The bar shouldn't be that we find men who minimally inconvenience us, they should be enriching our lives. It should be a partnership." She said that it should not be a favor to our partner to do some household chores or to help one's children. It is also the male partner's responsibility to contribute to the household. "A good man empowers, a good man steps up," she adds.
"When we congratulate and reward men for cleaning up messes that they made, we perpetuate unfair [and] unequal oppressive dynamics," Danger pointed out. "Good men hear this feedback and they step up. Mediocre men think that cleaning up their own messes is something they should be applauded for."
Many people on TikTok agreed with her views. @Jackieofalltrades commented, "We need to start asking, 'How would you make my life better? How do you improve my quality of life?' If he can’t, then stay single and in peace." @Kathy shared, "Watching from my clean apartment, alone where my dishes are done, laundry is drying and my peace is intact." @Tabou1987 expressed, "I realized I always thanked my husband whenever he did a task that I normally do daily. I asked myself you have ever been thanked for anything? Nope." @UrsulaRobs also said, "Thank you! My husband does pull his weight and every time I consider myself lucky I’m like nah, this is just what he should be doing."