She tried something interesting to introduce some ways to improve her marriage and it definitely worked.
After a whole day of taking care of kids and managing office work, most parents want to just relax and probably watch TV or scroll through their phones. Spending time with their partner might also seem like a task at this point. Knowing how difficult building a relationship with a spouse after having children is, Rachel Higgins—who goes by @racheleehiggins on TikTok—shared an interesting marriage hack for couples to change their relationship for the better.
Higgins calls the hack "three-hour night" in the video and it starts with her saying, "I wanted to share something that my husband and I started doing at the beginning of the year and it's been so fun and such like a game changer for how our evenings go." She continues, "So, before, after our daughter goes to bed, we would lounge on the couch, scroll on our phones until we were too tired and went to bed. So, we started doing something that we're calling our, 'three-hour night.'"
The wife then explains what changes they have made now. She says that the first hour, which starts around 7 pm, is dedicated to getting some work done and calls it the "productive time." She explains, "So start with like a quick cleanup of the kitchen or just like things that accumulated throughout the day and then we try to do something that either has been being put off or cleaning the bathroom or like organizing the pantry or hall closet or something like, super random like sharpening the knives. Anything productive for the household."
The second hour they have dedicated to putting their phones down and spending with each other. "So, that could be things like showering together or 'having fun' together, playing a game together or just like anything that's gonna get you guys talking and connecting or like debriefing from the day or just like talking about what you're doing and like the plans for tomorrow or like how works going or whatever. So, anything that's gonna connect and strengthen and build your marriage," says Higgins.
Finally, the last hour is all about them having their time without judgment. "If you just want to lay on the couch and scroll your phone and watch TikToks or whatever, like watch YouTube videos, the other person can't pass any judgment on that,” says the wife. She added that it could be anything one would want to do with their self.
The video is captioned, "If you're stuck in a rut with your evenings, try this! I saw someone do something similar to this a while ago, but can't remember who!" It has garnered nearly 81K views on the platform. @waitingformysistertoseethis commented, "I love this! Now to get my daughter to go to sleep at 7." @justapurpleflower0 said, "Setting aside time for these things is so important! I love that you're doing this and that you're sharing it." @oxomichelle shared, "Jealous you guys get 3 hours together every night my husband works so late we see each other maybe 1 hour before we fall asleep."