Ceci Kane, a mother of two, was pregnant with her first child when she made the rookie mistake of joining a Facebook group.
If you or your mom are part of a Facebook mom group, you know how crazy things get. Some paranoid Facebook moms have devoted themselves to exposing the malicious messaging of the government, Satan, the economy, or Big Pharma. These groups also often hold misguided beliefs about health issues, along with their overall distrust of medical authority, and then diagnose you with an obscure disease you definitely don’t have. Moreover, some of the Facebook groups operate along the same axis of delusion as Google. If you were to google "Why does my abdomen hurt?" you are more likely to get results on some unidentified ailments that scare the living daylights out of you.
One mom, however, has brought this insanity to light by making parody videos of infamous Facebook mom groups. Ceci Kane, a mother of two, was pregnant with her first child when she made the rookie mistake of joining a Facebook group. “I joined a Facebook group for moms and asked a question about epidurals,” Kane tells TODAY. “I was trying to figure out my birth plan and was just hoping to get more information.” Kane joined the group expecting good vibes and advice but was instead bombarded with different perspectives and criticism. “People were like, ‘You could be left paralyzed,’ ‘You could have nerve damage,’ ‘There are 100 things that could go wrong,’” Kane recalled. “Everybody was jumping down my throat for even having mentioned medication. It was all this fear-mongering.”
She posted a parodied version of the pregnancy on Tiktok that garnered over 819K views with over 102K likes, and now her mom-shaming experience is resonating with parents everywhere. In the video, Kane plays several roles, including a mom excited to introduce her newborn to her local Facebook group. “I gave birth to my new son via C-section two days ago,” Kane says, holding a doll. “Just wanted to let everybody know that we’re happy and healthy.” She then acts out the replies, with each character balancing a different object on their head. “Well, technically that’s not giving birth. But he’s very cute,” says one commenter.
Another “mom” says, “LOL — right? When she said she gave birth and had a C-section in the same sentence?” “I’m sorry, are we in high school now? Are we going to talk about her like she’s not here?” adds another. She proceeds with several more “comments” from fictional moms, some of whom come to Kane's defense while others give their unsolicited opinions on c-sections. “It’s not childbirth unless you’re delivering vaginally,” she says. “What a shame that hospitals continue to push C-sections on women,” another added. “Yes, how dare they use lifesaving surgery.” “That’s just what doctors tell you so that they can charge you for an expensive surgery.”
Kane, an interior designer from Michigan, also posts riveting content on topics including breastfeeding vs. formula feeding, sleep training, and childcare. She says that the commentary is not copied verbatim from any group, but from things, she's seen or experienced. “Mom groups can be wonderful, supportive places, you just have to find the right one," Kane tells TODAY. “Just never post your kid eating, sitting in a car seat, or anything that has to do with sleep. If you do that, all hell is going to break loose."