Woman shares her take on how much moms do and how often it goes unnoticed: 'We all do too much'

Being a mother is not only confined to slaving away in the kitchen or maintaining household schedules. Mothers hold quite the resumes and go on with their daily chores without batting an eye and with the utmost grace. From being nurturers, teachers, caregivers, supporters and chauffeurs, mothers do everything to ensure their family gets the best, even if that means putting themselves on the back burner. So, what would happen if a family lost its backbone? Mothers lay a strong foundation for you to walk on securely, so what would you do if the ground beneath your feet was snatched away from you while your world crashed down on you? That is some food for thought while you read this story.

Allison Roozen is a TikTok content creator who offers parents free resources and tools for play-based preschool activities. Recently, she shared a personal story on her TikTok, detailing the new perspective she gained after losing a close friend. “My best friend, my best mom friend, died in 2020,” she began. “We had been pregnant together, had our babies together. She was like, that friend.”

After the passing of her friend, Roozen observed how her late friend’s family coped with the loss and recovered in the wake of her absence. “Something I keep thinking about is now that she’s gone, the number of people that have been hired to replace her,” Roozen said.

Her best friend, a stay-at-home mom, ran the household and made it functional, but after the emotional loss, Roozen notes that the family has had to hire people to help around the house since the mother is not around to do it anymore. “And now, with her gone, her husband has hired a landscape crew, a house cleaner, two babysitters and enlists the help of neighbors and grandparents, along with having a girlfriend who does the emotional labor,” she explained. The famous African proverb "It takes a village to raise a child" aptly exemplifies this situation because now, an entire village has been hired to fill her shoes.

Mothers often ask nothing of anyone in exchange for tackling all of their duties. So, if you have a mother who looks after you and gets you everything you need, you should consider yourself fortunate and grateful. Show a bit of appreciation every once in a while to remind moms that what they do matters and that they are seen. As women, we do not pat ourselves on the back and are often unseen and unappreciated as moms. These feelings leave them struggling to navigate through the day and having trouble comforting themselves while having comforted everyone at the same time.

Hundreds commented on Roozen’s take, with several noting how important it is for stay-at-home moms to have a life of their own. "We are our own villages and we are entirely taken for granted. Working mom, stay-at-home mom, we all do too much," wrote @cheeky.cali. "The craziest part is that if the husband had died, the wife would’ve gone back to work and still done everything else, like normal," commented @kfost20. "I’m so very sorry for your loss. Moms are expected to juggle everything and never drop a ball. No matter what and it isn’t fair," said @applesauceandadhd.

Other moms noted how moms need large life insurance policies for just this kind of tragic situation. "This is why my husband has life insurance for me. To be able to hire people to do the work if I die," wrote @crose143.