Woman shares a simple hack to avoid awkward silences in conversations with anyone

In any conversation, awkward silences can be difficult to navigate through. They may even bring an end to an otherwise good conversation. however, a simple trick shared by this TikTok dating coach can help one have better conversations. Genny (@datingcoachdiehl) took to TikTok to share a video on "the ultimate convo hack to never have awkward silences." The dating coach shared that if a person's mind goes blank during a conversation due to things like social anxiety, they can use her low-effort but effective conversation hack. The woman says, "You might have heard of it. It is called reflective listening or in therapy training, it's one of the levels of validation."

"You essentially repeat back to someone what they just said to you. There are two ways to go about this," she continues. She asked her viewers to alternate between the two ways so it doesn't sound annoying to the other person. "The first is to word for word repeat the last three words that someone said," the dating coach says. As an example, she says that if someone is telling you about the trip they went on. "The sun was shining but I got a sunburn."

The woman says that in such a scenario you pick the last three words and turn it into a question. For instance ask, "Oh, you got a sunburn?" As per the dating coach, it allows people to go into the details of the event and keeps the conversation going. It also makes it look like you're paying attention and taking an interest in the conversation. The woman shares that this would allow you to take a backseat in the conversation and chip in whenever and wherever you can to participate in the conversation.

For the second method, one might want to grab a Thesaurus and get comfortable with synonyms as per the creator. When someone's talking one has to register what they're saying and make a note of the conversation, or get a summary of the story they're telling. Then you repeat it back to the person to understand what they're saying and give them a chance to correct you if you're wrong. "The quality of your relationships will go up if you do these things and you will become one of the favorite people in your social circle," the woman states. She captioned the video, "You'll also notice people doing this to you if you pay close attention and to be honest it's nice."

@lizard6717 wrote, "If there’s a pause I immediately knock the conversation off the rails and ask them what kind of soup they would be if they were a soup." @hullraa commented, "Be ok with silence." The woman replied, "I love comfortable silence! But it can feel very uncomfortable with new people when you’re still sort of 'courting' each other, getting used to each other's presence." @leigha2390 shared, "Wait, I always do this because I want to know every detail of everyone’s lives when I'm talking to them." @jackieezy wrote, "This is what I do to mask my ADHD and the fact that I only picked up on a couple of words they said." @rackyroo expressed, "If people did this when talking to me I would cry out of happiness." @jules4theshire remarked, "Where was this these past few days when I needed it?" 

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