Woman shares 5 things she does not care about while parenting her kids and the internet agrees

There are certain things and styles of parenting that most parents agree to apply to their kids. But that does not mean they are the right thing to do, as everyone is different from others. Sometimes, such practices that have been the norm for ages can be wrong and hence, parents need to make their rules according to the changing times. Similarly, a mom, Abbey Fickley—who goes by @abbeyfickley on TikTok—shared five things that she does not care about as a mother, resonating with many parents on the internet.

"Five things I do not care about, motherhood edition," Fickley began. "Number 1, swear words. We call them home words because that's what they are, words that can be used at home." She continued, "This is a privilege. So, if you use a swear word to be unkind to another person, that privilege is revoked. But ultimately, I want to be the person who teaches my daughter context, swear words included." The mom shared how her daughter still doesn't use any swear words because she doesn't make a big deal about it. "When we make things a big deal to kids, they become a big deal. I never made swearing a big deal."

"Number 2, missing school for a mental health day. Your mental health is more important to me. I want you to know that I am listening to you when you communicate to me," Fickley expressed. "I want to reward you for that communication. Life is hard, not just for adults, but also for kids." The third thing that the mom doesn't care about is play dates. "I am not strict about it. I don't really care. I am open seven days a week; the only requirement is respect. Otherwise, I didn't really work this hard to get this home to not fill it with love and laughter. So literally, come over any time." The mom doesn't put much emphasis on authority figures either, as per her point number four.

"I don't care if you are an authority figure. I care if you are a safe adult to be around my child. Of course, respect is a must. But my daughter will never blindly obey an authority figure simply because they are an authority figure," the woman explained. "If something feels wrong, speak up, come tell me." She added, "Number five is music. I don't care what kind of music you listen to, as long as it is not offensive towards other people or promoting violence." The mom remarked that she really likes Taylor Swift, but if her daughter is having a bad day or is in a mood and wants to blast Ice Spice, it is not her business. People took to the comments to express their opinions.

@rockymellakitty wrote, "My mom had a similar parenting style. I never hid anything from my mom! I never fell in anything bad because of this." @eliza_rae22 commented, "As a daycare teacher, these are the kind of parents I want to see in this generation." @cassierharding shared, "I was taking mental health days in school that my mum allowed and I didn't even know it. I only understand now. One time, mum picked me up 'sick' and she had McDonalds waiting in the car for me." @aaa12814 expressed, "My brother struggled with social anxiety even in elementary school and my mom would let him have mental health days all the time."

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