Woman refuses to see her dying mother for a heartbreaking reason, sparking debate

Having a difficult relationship with your parents can be extremely challenging while growing up, sometimes leading to distances that can never be closed. Similarly, a woman on Reddit, u/Sensitive-History9, shared how her parents' deceit made her give up her baby and explained the reason behind her refusal to see her mother for the last time before she was about to pass away. "I was 15 when I got pregnant and 16 when I had my baby. Immediately after giving birth, my mother had forms for me to sign, telling me they were hospital admin forms. She was my mother. I believed her. They were adoption papers. My baby was taken right out of my arms and I didn't see him again for 20 years," she shared.

"The father of my baby and I were still together when I gave birth," she added. However, her boyfriend's parents weren't thrilled with them having a baby at a young age, but they still helped the young couple become financially independent. "They helped me to get a job as a waitress in my boyfriend's uncle's restaurant. I worked nights and weekends. My boyfriend worked in his dad's auto parts store." The couple was committed to starting a family and saving money for their future. However, the parents of the young mom constantly pushed her to get an abortion and even kicked her out of the house.

"I stopped talking to them for months. Then one day they called and said they had a change of heart, they didn't want to lose me and the baby." Even though she was skeptical, her boyfriend's parents encouraged her to give them a chance. She reconciled with her parents. "We all regretted it in the end," she shared. Moreover, she went into labor at their house and they took her to the hospital.

While in hospital, "They told me they couldn't get ahold of my boyfriend or his parents." She further added, "They promised me they would keep trying until they got someone on the phone. They lied." When the young mom finally returned from the hospital, she, her boyfriend and his parents grieved the loss of the baby. "Days later, my parents had me taken from their home and forced back to their house. I ran away. They dragged me back, again and again. They finally let me go when I tried to unalive myself. I hated them. I never wanted to see them again," she explained.

"When I was 22, my boyfriend and I got married. A year later, we welcomed our second child into the world. The trauma from the events of the first time I gave birth hit us both hard, especially my husband. I would not have had it any other way, but he still demanded to be in the delivery room with me. I wanted my mother-in-law there with us too. His dad and siblings waited on guard in the waiting room and outside the hospital," the post continued. Even after having 4 kids together, they tried their best to cope with the loss of their first child each year by celebrating the baby's birthday.

Years later, she finally came in contact with her firstborn son who showed up at their house and ever since then, they maintained regular contact with each other. "He was adopted by an older couple that couldn't have kids and was an only child. He loves having siblings. He has spent Christmas with us every year since he came back into our lives," the mom added. The boy's adoptive father had managed to track down his biological parents before passing away and it brought joy to both the firstborn son and his biological family as they got along.

"I am so grateful to the man and woman that adopted him. They gave him a good life with lots of love and raised a good son," the woman said, feeling thankful to her son's adoptive parents. But things came crashing down once the woman got the news that her mother was dying and wanted to repair their relationship before passing away. The woman was reluctant to reconcile with her parents. "I hate them for what they did to us, for stealing our son. For taking him right out of my arms. All that time was lost because of their cruelty and their selfishness," the woman wrote. 

On the other hand, her husband wanted to take their kids to his in-law's house and to show they lived a good life away from their presence. However, the mother wondered if her teenage self would have managed to give her firstborn the amazing life he got after getting adopted. Nonetheless, she wanted to get some impartial opinions from the Reddit community on whether she should reconcile with her parents and give them a second chance before her mother dies. The Reddit community came together for some polarized opinions.

u/c6h12o6mama wrote, "The eldest isn't a pawn or an object to be used to hurt the parents. I can't imagine how terrible it would make him feel to see the people who literally sent him away." u/Antique-diva added, "If you do contact them, don't take your kids with you. They should not be taken there for revenge. They should be shielded from that. If you decide on the revenge, only show them pictures. Though I'm not sure a revenge meeting is that great. I understand why your husband would want that, but it'll still hurt all of you." u/Interesting_Cut_7591 shared, "I think if anything, they will turn it into 'See, it all worked out' and feel like they had a hand in all the good things. If anything, as a compromise with your husband, I'd respond that you're too busy with all four of your wonderful children and getting to visit your oldest. But they don't get to see you or the children. They don't get your time."