The gender-based social experiment revealed that her husband showed little interest in taking up the task, despite her hunger.
Patriarchy has significantly influenced gender roles within households, leading to an unequal distribution of household chores. It is unfortunate that women often bear the brunt of these responsibilities, ranging from cooking to cleaning. It is uncommon to find husbands who willingly take the initiative and share the workload without being prompted.
Recently, an author, content creator and mom, Victoria Emes—who goes by @victoriaemes on TikTok—shared an insightful video of a test she gave her husband. She wanted to see if she does not cook dinner for a day, will her husband take it up and do something about it?
In the video, Emes says that she is not going to make dinner and waits to see if her husband will notice it. “Sometimes, when I've absolutely f--king had enough of being a woman, I like to conduct a sort of gender-based social experiment in my own home just to prove to myself that women do, in fact, do everything, that men have no fucking initiative, and that the patriarchy is a f--king hot bag of d--ks,” she said.
She checks on her husband around 6:30 p.m. and he does not do anything about dinner. Emes shares that twenty minutes later “he has opened the fridge and looked inside sort of vaguely twice, but still, he has not made any of the dishes.” She mentions that if she is cooking like she usually does, the whole family would have been fed by now.
Thirty minutes later, instead of asking about dinner plans, her husband chats with her about a butterfly chrysalis he saw in the garden. He seems unbothered that the dinner has not been prepared. Meanwhile, she reveals that she is very hungry but despite her hunger, she decides to wait and see what happens. “I've got to do this for the sake of women kind. I've got to prove a point,” she added.
After putting their son to sleep, around 8:30 pm, her husband says he would like to make a gourmet meal of fish fingers and chips. “So, here you have it. I'm eating at 9 pm. Three hours later than we normally eat. I hate men,” she concludes.
The video went viral and many women could resonate with her about the inequality in household chores. @jlight68 commented, “Mine says, ‘No need to make dinner if you're not up for it; I can have cereal.’ Gee, thanks!!” @pillowcase wrote, “Thank you for your sacrifice in conducting this experiment to which we all knew the outcome would be but still needed confirmation of.”
@toxicwotsit0 shared, “I tend to finish work at 6, two whole hours after my husband and no food even being thought of until I start and then he scrambles to make it.” @crazyhorsesawoo expressed, “Thinking about what to prepare for food 3 times a day every day is exhausting. Sometimes I just want someone else to make a decision.” @brookehourn wrote, “I do this too. Same outcome. Also, can your husband never make a decision? Mine always answers my questions with 'I dunno what do you think.'"