This millennial mom is wondering how her own mother managed parenting duty in the 80s and if it was more or less difficult than modern parenting.
Modern parents often wonder if raising kids before their time was easier compared to raising their kids in the age of social media, tech advancement, and a rapidly changing society. Nowadays, many parenting advisors and content creators on social media have been introducing countless numbers of parenting styles. It's safe to say that millennial are getting confused about what is best for their kids. So, Taylor Wolfe, who goes by @thedailytay on Tiktok, quizzed her mom who raised her in the 80s on how she managed parenting and why she carried out certain things differently compared to modern parents.
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Wolfe sat down with her mother and asked her a few questions and her mom gave some surprising answers to it. The biggest question Wolfe asked her mom at first was about how she managed to survive without Google back in those days. Wolfe's mom wondered what she would need Google for. "Everything!" Wolfe exclaimed.
"For starters, poop!" Wolfe quickly follows up, "Cause you have to know if the color is an okay color if it's healthy." Wolfe's mom tells her that she was a "nursing mom and if the poop came out green then [she] assumed that it was because [Wolfe] ate a lot of broccoli." Wolfe tosses another question at her, asking how she managed without a video baby monitor. "I was the monitor, going in and feeling you," her mom replied. Wolfe asks her again about how she could sleep with ease if she didn't have a baby monitor in the 80s. "We just slept," her mom answers.
Her mother didn't have to bother about using nursery temperature checkers which were not available in earlier days and they would just put their kids in a diaper and let them sleep when it was hot. If it was cold, Wolfe's mom would simply put a blanket on her child. Wolfe also refers to a popular TikTok trend where parents narrate how they only get "18 summers" with their kids and it adds to the stress of making every summer memorable.
Wolfe's mom comes up with the perfect answer to it. "In summer, I still have you," she giggles. Wolfe doesn't stop there. The mother and daughter duo keep going back and forth about baby-led weaning, Wolfe's mother dealing with judgemental people and how she remains unbothered. "The years are short, but the days are long," Wolfe inserts a quote and her mother agrees to it. Their conversation proves how boomer parents were not overwhelmed by the added stress of raising a kid compared to millennial parents and they relied heavily on their instincts to nurture their babies.
The TikTok community left their thoughts in the comments section of the post. @doodle4089 wrote: "It is almost like all the technology, and its advertising, leads to so much unnecessary anxiety." @phillykaem noted: "As someone who has worked in pediatrics since the 80's. The parents are way more anxious now and it's rubbing off on their kids." @katt2292 added: "This was actually super insightful! Your mom seems like she was under less pressure and trusted herself more than many do today." Ultimately, Wolfe's video gave viewers a clear insight into boomer parenting and how laid-back they were compared to millennial parents.
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