Pregnant woman caught husband cheating — then named the baby after his worst enemy
Her estranged husband called her crying and said she had no right to name 'his' son after a random deceased guy.
A woman (u/firstloveimmortal) named her newborn baby after her late ex-boyfriend instead of her estranged husband. Well, she decided to opt out of the family tradition of naming first sons after their father because she caught him cheating on her while she was six months pregnant.
When the new mom finally told her husband about her decision, he was furious; in fact, he accused her of wronging him and said she had no right to name 'his' son after a dead guy. Enraged, the woman turned to Reddit to ask whether she had overstepped with her decision. The post has garnered 14,000 upvotes so far.
AITA for naming my firstborn son after my late boyfriend and NOT my husband even though it's a tradition in his family to name the first born son after the father?
by u/firstloveimmortal in AmItheAsshole
In the post, the woman shared that her first boyfriend, Daniel, unfortunately, passed away from leukemia at age 20. Heartbroken, she lost 40 pounds in a month and was also hospitalized because of the trauma. However, constant therapy and counselling sessions, somehow, helped her move on.
Six years later, she met her husband, Phillipe, and married him after two years of courtship. Initially, the woman wanted to wait a few more years before having a baby, but her ex-husband insisted they should plan early.
The woman agreed, and they got pregnant after three years of marriage. But everything changed when she caught her husband red-handed with another lady. "She was hanging on to him, and they kissed inside his car. That's where I confronted both of them. She was crying, and he went on to console her, saying it wasn't her fault," the woman recalled.
Furious, the pregnant lady moved out of her husband's house to live with a friend. Finally, she gave birth to a healthy boy and named him Daniel, not Phil, which she and her husband had decided on.
A month later, she informed her husband about his son. "The same day, I reactivated my Facebook account and announced the birth of my son with his full name. My husband called me up crying and furious and told me that I had no right to name HIS son after 'some dead guy I f****d,' she recalled.
Moreover, she clarified that Daniel gave her hope throughout the difficult months of her pregnancy. "He is my spirit angel looking after me from heaven, and that's why I named my son after him," she added.
Unfortunately, just like her, many pregnant women report being cheated on during their pregnancies. In fact, according to Robert Rodriguez, a psychologist, 10% of to-be-fathers cheat on their partners during pregnancy. But why?
Well, Noel Biderman, a former Canadian lawyer and businessman, believes it's because pregnancy or childbirth often results in a period of "abstinence" for couples. During the same time, some women become too insecure about their bodies, and their sex drive also naturally reduces. "So it turns out that most men start thinking about being unfaithful right amongst that change in life," Biderman told Vice.
Meanwhile, reacting to the Reddit story, u/tmss16 commented, "NTA. He cheated and left you while you were pregnant. Of course, it's still his son, but giving your baby the name of the man who cheated on you (while you were carrying his son) is asking too much. Daniel is a lovely name, and I'm sorry for your loss." Similarly, u/3fluffies wrote, "NTA. If he wanted naming rights, he shouldn't have screwed around on you while you were pregnant, holy shit! Surely his family also has a tradition of not having affairs while your wife is carrying the firstborn son." u/sargassobeauty explained, "NTA — sounds like he did absolutely nothing for you during the pregnancy apart from stress you out and break your heart! Congratulations as well!"
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