Her fiance was pissed at her after seeing the notes that she had left behind for his mother to find.
Editor's note: This article was originally published on January 25, 2022. It has since been updated.
Meeting your partner's parents is considered a big milestone when it comes to a relationship. There is also the anxiety of whether you will get along with your partner's parents and if they will like you, and you will like them. One woman got along fine with her fiance's mom but there was one little snag. The mother liked to snoop around and go through her things, which made her very uncomfortable. She decided to prank her fiance's Mom by leaving embarrassing notes all over the house. She took to Reddit and shared the whole story, asking if she took it too far by "hiding embarrassing notes in my house as a joke because I know my fiance's mom snoops."
"I bought a house seven years ago and I met my fiance, Al, four years ago. This year he moved in. We're talking about making it a home for both of us. But as of now, he hasn't moved much stuff in, right now 95% of the stuff and furniture in the house is mine. When his mom comes over, she's kind of a snoop. He was used to that, but when she comes to our house, it's so uncomfortable because she's just going through my sh*t. When I am bothered, she's like 'I was just helping with chores' etc. He says I should just let her because she has 'a lot of nervous energy,'" she wrote.
She let it slide for a bit but then her fiance's Mom made a comment about an affirmation note she came across. "One thing she snooped on was actually embarrassing. In my home office, I had a little affirmation post-it note on my monitor saying, 'I am smart, I am skilled, I am deserving of great things.' It was a silly thing my therapist recommended to get me in a confident mindset before an interview. Anyway, she made a comment about my ego... But as a joke, I decided to do it again," she wrote.
"I had my best friend over and we got wine drunk and wrote a bunch of 'affirmations' to hide," she wrote. She left notes all over, and they were hilarious and very tongue-in-cheek. Here are some of the notes she left.
Medicine cabinet: My teeth will regrow! I am sharklike and powerful!
Kitchen drawers: I know when to spoon, but I also know when to fork! I am sexy and self-assured!
Work desk: I will not just f*ck my way to the top of the company, I will f*ck my way to the top of the world!
Walk-in closet: I am beautiful with clothes and without! Especially without! My boobs are legendary!
They wrote a bunch more and had fun leaving them around for her fiance's Mom to 'find.' "Next time my MIL came over she saw a few. And she didn't acknowledge them to me even though she definitely started acting a little weird about me," she wrote. "I went to run some errands and when I was out, she confronted Al about the notes and was trying to tell him that I seemed unstable, egotistical, and moving in was a bad idea. She showed him the notes and he didn't really know what to make of it," she recalled.
Her fiance wasn't too pleased and accused her of unnecessarily antagonizing his mother. "He asked me and I said that they were just some silly private notes to boost my self-confidence and make myself laugh; how had she gotten them? Had she been going through my things? He said she was just tidying, and saw them. And they were real weird," she recalled.
"I was like 'have you met me? You should know how weird I am. Anyway if you don't want your Mom seeing my weird sh*t you've got to stop letting her go through my sh*t.' He asked if I left them on purpose to annoy her, and I admitted that was kinda the joke, but I also have other weird or private sh*t so what I said about her needing to stop snooping if she didn't want to find weird crap was still for real," she wrote. "He said I was making stuff hard for him, his mom was really protective and adjusting to him moving in with a girlfriend for the first time, and I was agitating her on purpose and making her think I wouldn't be a good partner, when he wanted her to have the opposite impression of me!"
Reddit users overwhelmingly sided with her. "She's snooping through your home. I'd have gone further and left little notes like, "Nobody likes a snoop," and "You aren't welcome to go through my things." But yours were pretty damn funny. It's a red flag if your fiance stands up for her invading your privacy like this," one person wrote. "If you don’t set boundaries with your fiancé’s mother now, it’s going to be infinity times worse once you get married," commented another.