The woman's boyfriend had asked her if she would get rid of her cat and prioritize their relationship a couple of times.
A woman kicked out her boyfriend who was living in with her after he verbally abused her cat. He had joked about getting rid of the cat earlier but after he moved into her home, he asked for the cat to be gone. Despite eventually making peace with Millie the cat, the woman caught her husband verbally abusing the cat and asked him to leave her home. She ended the relationship but wondered if she did the right thing. She turned to Reddit for answers and asked if she did the wrong thing.
"My boyfriend and I recently moved in together when his lease ended he moved into my apartment. I have a cat, Millie, who is my baby girl," she wrote on Reddit, adding that Millie had been with her since she was a kitten. "Back when my BF and I first started dating, he made the joke that if we were ever going to live together, he’d have to “get rid of that cat”, which I dismissed at the time. When he would come over he would ignore Millie, making jokes about how cats are stuck up, how much he’s a dog person. Again, I dismissed this, bc he never acted hostile towards her. I figured it was just a preference," she wrote.
Soon she realized that he wasn't joking at all and actually explicitly asked her to get rid of Millie. "When we started to get serious about moving in, he asked if I would consider giving her away, because he didn’t like the idea of living with a cat. I almost laughed before realizing he was serious. I told him that under no circumstances would I get rid of my cat. I felt guilty about being unwilling to compromise, but he actually took it well and reassured me that if she was this important to me, he’d get over it," she recalled.
It all came to head when he returned home but didn't realize she was standing in the kitchen. "Millie was on the couch and I heard him go into the room and give this sigh.
Before I could call out, I heard him say “You’re so f*cking worthless.” She was shocked. "It terrified me, because I’ve never ever heard him speak with such malice. He sounded like a different person. It was just so cold and hostile that I panicked, and rushed out there to see him looking at Millie," she wrote.
She wasn't having anyone shout or abuse Millie and she let him know. "I completely freaked out. I was yelling asking what he thought he was doing talking to her like that? He jumped and I scooped Millie up and told him to leave my apartment right now. He looked so stunned and started to argue, asking where was he supposed to go? I told him that I don’t care, he just needs to leave."
"He was pissed and said he was going for a drive and slammed the door behind him. I immediately started sobbing and holding Millie," she wrote. "I was shaking and she could tell I was upset and kept cuddling me. She calmed me down." He later complained that he "was constantly feeling second best to Millie." She posted an update confirming that she ended the relationship with him. "We broke up. It’s my apartment, he wasn’t on the lease yet, and he’s going to go stay with his brother.
For her, choosing between Millie and her boyfriend was a no-brainer. "Millie doesn’t deserve to just be tolerated, she deserves to be safe and treated like the little princess she is by anybody I live with. She’s seen me through so much, and I’d rather be alone than her wandering around the side of the road somewhere. And I am absolutely terrified of her ever being hurt. It isn't worth the risk. I’m okay with it being just her and I for now," she concluded.
Reddit overwhelmingly sided with her, telling her boyfriend was out of order and that Millie deserved the world. "A man who won't respect your pets won't respect you either. I'd never date someone who wouldn't treat my cats well," wrote one person. Many shared horror stories of abusive boyfriends and husbands harming and even killing pets. Another Redditor added, "I would never tolerate my boyfriend speaking to my animals in that way. They depend on us and can't tell us if someone is being mean or hurting them. Please keep Millie safe."
She eventually posted a picture of Millie and she definitely deserves all the good things in the world.