The woman finds the perfect way to deal with her manipulative parents who prioritized their son over her.
Being taken for granted, especially by parents, hurts a lot. u/Haunting_Tackle_6997, a 27-year-old woman, was set aside by her parents for her brother. Though it bothered her, she took it in her stride and moved on. Things came to a head when after dismissing her for her brother, the parents expected her to contribute towards helping him. She flat-out refused, which led to people criticizing her in hordes. She believes her ultimate decision is not wrong, but the criticism makes her a little doubtful. Therefore, she came on Reddit to get a third-party view of her situation.
The woman began the post by talking about her past living situation. She used to stay with her parents and helped out with "paying rent and buying groceries." She explained her brother's current state of affairs. "My brother is married and has two children, a two-year-old and a newborn. He recently lost his job and has asked my parents if he can move back in until he is back on his feet," she wrote.
As soon as the brother announced his intentions, the parents pushed aside their daughter and her comforts. They informed her that she would need to "move out of the basement suite in the house and into my mom's hobby room while my brother and his family stay with them." The daughter vehemently protested against it but was told it was their house and their rules. She ultimately decided to change her living arrangement.
The woman's job is such that she has to work for 14 days out of town, after which she gets a leave of 7 days. It is for these 7 days that she requires accommodation. Since her parents' house was no longer a viable option, she switched to "an all-inclusive for my week off." It proved to be a more financially sound decision as the overall cost was "less than rent and food at my parent's house." The parents did not oppose her decision and allowed her to move out.
After some days of this arrangement, she began getting messages from her parents. They expected her contribution towards the rent and groceries like the previous arrangement. It surprised her, as she did not understand why this was still expected of her when she was not living there. When she said the same, it upset the whole family as they planned to use her money to help the brother. They accused her of moving out without giving notice. She told them they literally took her living space and gave it to her brother.
Her brother also called and argued that she was being selfish, leaving him out to dry when he needed her the most. She called out that when he was not living in their parents' space, he was not sending them any money. He offered to go back to the previous arrangement by moving upstairs, but the woman was not interested in that anymore. Her current arrangement, she explained, "covers my room, maid service, food, alcohol, and entertainment for 2/3 of what I was paying my folks." It was easier on her pockets in comparison to the last one. She gave $500 to her parents and called it a day, which was not received well by her parents, brother and other relatives.
The comment section was on her side. u/iwntwfflefrys wrote how the family had wronged the woman, "Your parents made you pay 1800 dollars for a ROOM in Edmonton? And you were only there for 2 weeks?! Your family is taking advantage of you. You also gave them 500, don't feel bad for leaving and don't look back."
u/miriandrae commented how the family had wronged the woman, "NTA - tell me you're the scapegoat without telling me you're the scapegoat. There was no communication, no family meeting, no decision together. They decided unilaterally to evict you from the space you were living in to support your brother without any conversation and expected you to just take it."