Woman found her fiancé's dating profile and catfished him with a fake account — it ended with both of them apologizing
The fiancé's profile was from 2013, but was recently active
For anyone who has ever survived the gut punch of infidelity, the signs are impossible to ignore. So, when a woman (u/bustedhimnowwhat) who had experienced being cheated on before noticed her fiancé growing distant just months after they moved in together, those old ghosts came rushing back. Desperate for answers, she bypassed his phone entirely and created a fake profile on a dating site to catfish him. Turns out, the outcome was entirely different from what she expected. Originally published on July 4, 2018, her story was recently reshared with an update by u/Direct-Caterpillar77 on June 27, 2026, garnering over 4,400 upvotes.
I (30f) just found my fiance (30m) on an online dating site. What do I do?
by u/Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates
The digital discovery
Driven by suspicion, the woman conducted an online investigation on her fiancé of more than a year and a half without checking his phone. This inquiry followed a confrontation about his recent distance, which he had dismissed as a result of work stress and the inconvenience of his car breaking down. She created a fake profile on a popular dating site and was shocked to find her fiancé listed there, actively using the site. Feeling completely devastated, she decided to dig deeper.
The catfish
Upon closer inspection, she noticed that nine of the 10 photos her fiancé posted were from before they started dating. This made her think it might just be an old profile after all. Nonetheless, she decided to catfish him and see whether he'd bite or not. However, as soon as she texted him, the account was deleted out of nowhere. "I will be confronting him when he gets home from work," the woman noted. Indeed, she did just that; however, the reason why his profile was deleted wasn't what the woman had been anticipating.
The confrontation
The woman directly asked him about the dating profile with a screenshot. But instead of getting angry, her fiancé offered a clear explanation. He revealed that he created the profile back in 2013 and had deleted it long ago. But when his coworker needed help with navigating the app's updated interface, he decided to log back in to help him out. Once that was done, he got an email that someone had messaged him, after which he decided to delete the account once and for all.
The truth exposed
The fiancé even offered to show her the email to back his story. Nonetheless, he still apologized for not clearing this up further, especially with his knowledge of her past. Upon hearing his side, the woman also decided to come clean and stated that she tried to catfish him. Understanding her trauma, he wasn't upset but instead offered to keep an open phone and social media policy. This meant that either of them could check each other's phones to eliminate any further lingering doubts that might fester into something big.
Married people on dating sites
Even though this woman's fiancé wasn't using dating websites actively, many married adults do. In fact, according to a study by the Institute of Family Studies, 11% of married young adults aged 18 to 39 are on dating sites. Meanwhile, only about 14% of unmarried adults are on these websites. The majority of these married adults reportedly seek friendships, with about 38% confirming it, followed by casual dates (27%), committed relationships (23%), and hookups (11%).
Fixed the problem
People were happy to see this couple clear up their misconceptions like real adults. u/BigBirdsBrain wrote, "They talked, owned their mistakes, and fixed the actual problem instead of turning it into a bigger one." Meanwhile, u/BillieDusk commented, "Rare that catfishing turns into honest, mature communication. Glad it worked for them, but sounds like OP needs to work through some stuff before fiancé becomes husband."
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