When it comes to love, everyone has a different love language and relationships work best only when they are taken care of.
Have you ever felt like you had the absolute best day with your partner, only to later realize that somehow your partner doesn't feel fulfilled? And then you can't make sense of that behavior and so it simply bums you out. A woman on Tiktok from the account Questions for Love (@questionsforlove) made complete sense of this in a video she posted. She explained exactly why your partner feels that way and what you can do to avoid or help it.
She begins her video by saying the hard truth. She said, "Just because you're spending time together does not mean it's quality time." What she means by that is that one person's quality time may differ from another. She begins to further explain by saying that you and your partner may be watching a lot of TV together. For one person, that can be the epitome of spending good, quality time together. For the other, however, it can seem like a random thing with no emotional value whatsoever.
In her words, she explains: "One person finds that fun. The other person doesn't find that engaging. You watch four hours of a show together, the problem with that is if the person who is unfulfilled complains to their partner and they're like, 'I feel like we never spent time together.' Whats the other person gonna say?" While such questions can sometimes take you aback and make you question everything, just try to understand the point of view of the person. The woman says that asking questions and introspecting can allow one to understand the reason behind such different conclusions better.
Giving hugs and kisses to plants instead of water and sunlight, which is something they need, will do them no good. They'll still wither. Loving with the right love language is the only way for relationships to bloom. She said, "Just because you're spending time together does not mean it's quality time." What she means by that is that one person's definition of quality time may differ from another.
The comment section had some wonderful input to give. While most people just resonated with their personal experiences with this story, a lot of the people voiced their helplessness as a means to let their hearts out. In such an attempt, @romilitgen said, "His quality time is him gaming with his friends and me sitting on his bed waiting for him to get off to spend real time with me." @anyways760 added to that and said what she wanted from her man, "All I need is him to talk to me about literally anything. He says he just doesn't 'talk' or know how... he never tries, meets my effort. It's so forced." This advice is quite crucial when it comes to any relationship whatsoever, especially the kind where the couple has different ideas on what it means to spend time together. In such cases, finding the balance is the key.