The woman pointed out that there are certain normal conversations people should be able to have without anyone getting triggered.
Many people try to be mindful of their words and actions to ensure nobody gets hurt, often to the point of walking on eggshells. However, over time, this might get really difficult and frustrating. A daughter feels the same way about tiptoeing around her parents just because not doing so might hurt their feelings. The woman named Elisabeth–who goes by @elisabethrhe_ on TikTok–shared why it has become vital to normalize saying whatever is on your mind to your parents without beating around the bush.
"I am sorry, but can we normalize not tiptoeing around your parents anymore?" the woman says in the video. "I told my mom that I did not want to do something she suggested and guess what my dad texted me." The text read, "When mom gives you suggestions, just say yes or maybe later. She knows more about dog nutrition than I do. 'No, I don't want to do that' is a trigger for her." Reacting to the text, Elisabeth said, "Well, then tough s***. Get over it if somebody tells you, 'No, I don't want to do that,' you take it as a 'No, I don't want to do that.'" She told her father that if she felt uncomfortable doing something, she was not going to do that or say, "Okay, maybe later," for the sake of her mom not getting triggered.
"He was like, 'Well, then pick your poison.' I was like, poison, what poison? There is no poison. It was a conversation that a grown adult should be able to have without getting triggered," Elisabeth expressed. "I have spent my whole life choosing my words, staying silent in order to not trigger her and not have her blow up in her emotions and my dad too. I am not doing that anymore." The daughter pointed out, "We are all grown. I have learned to push past my emotions. I have learned to not act impulsively or to take things personally and you need to do that too."
"I am not going to tiptoe around people just because they can't handle their own emotions. I am sorry," she concluded. The video received over two million views and more than 457k likes. People took to the comments to support her thoughts and shared their experiences with their parents. @momoisey wrote, "The way I wasn't allowed to be upset because it would upset my mom. As an adult, I finally realize how insane that is to tell a child."
@marusantose commented, "I still live with my parents and the other day at 11:30 pm, she sent me a text saying she wasn't able to sleep. I was at my best friend's house 7 blocks away, who she's known for 13 years." @izme.spiderbeech remarked, "Emotionally immature parents are exhausting, especially after you grow up and start healing those emotional neglect wounds from them." @bog.bae shared, "How is hearing 'no' triggering for her? That is insane! He basically told you to never say no to her because she won't like it?" @vickyinatx expressed, "The generation that yelled at us for being 'sensitive,' but they're the ones who always get their feelings hurt."
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