Woman explains why parents loving each other more than their kids is a healthy equation

Family is the foremost source from which children learn and experience love. Every child is impacted in one way or another not only by the love that their parents have for them but also by the love that their parents have for each other. However, in some families, we can find parents loving their spouses more than their kids and some even go on to explicitly speak about it to their kids. Though it may seem a bit difficult to digest, especially for the kids, it could also mean a healthy environment for the kids to grow up. Yvette—who goes by @yevit on TikTok—talks about one such incident where her father said that he loves her mom more than he loves her and people exchange their contrasting views over this video.

Yvette began her video by saying, "My dad once told me that he loves my mom more than he loves me." Her fidgety expression gave away her concerned mind on hearing her dad's "completely unprompted" remark. "I was like okay thanks. Okay cool," she says still unsure about how she has to feel about this bittersweet comment. And then she talks about the reason her dad gave her for loving her mom more. In her dad's words "Because your mom gave me you. So of course I love her more." That was a smart move by her father, handling his daughter's uncertainty while also sticking to his opinion.

Clearly, the man knew how to tackle the situation without being offensive and even Yvette, for a moment thought, "That's kinda sweet." And once she processed the whole conversation she told her dad, "Mom does not feel that way about you." Her comment makes us wonder if she said that as a comeback to her dad or if she just blurted out her casual opinion. Either way, Yvette's words at the end were quite a snarky response to her dad's unfiltered revelation. As she posted this video captioning, "And actually that's the correct dynamic here," comments swarmed in and there were pretty diverse opinions.

Yvette's "correct dynamic" outlook was backed by several users like, @hoebag1999995 who wrote "Tbh it’s healthy. My dad is obsessed with my mom and idk it gave me something to look forward to! My mom is all about her kids though, there’s a balance." One user, @courtinthecity7 mentioned, "My husband and I made an agreement that we would always try to love each other more than the kids. It's like putting ur marriage's oxygen mask on 1st." Some users contradicted Yvette and one person @cassi_lynn jokingly commented "My husband used to tell me he loved me more than anything in the world. Once we had kids he started saying 'more than almost anything in the world.'"

Similar to Yvette's dad, TikTok user @world.shaker knows the importance of prioritizing his wife and has explained how he shares his wife's mental load even when he's not around. He talks about the simple things he does at home to help reduce his wife's stress before leaving on a business trip. Sharing some household chores like vacuuming the floors, putting together some outfits for their toddler, and even booking a hotel room for her so that she can have her "me time" once he gets back from his trip. He says that he understands that it's a lot to handle for his wife even though she doesn't mind taking on multiple responsibilities and this has raised the expectations for other couples. Above all, a family filled with love can be the best place for kids to perceive relationships.