Mothers with a career have no time off. They are basically at two full-time jobs with no time for themselves.
Parents have to do a lot for their kids and they do so because of the love they have in their hearts for their little ones. However, women find it more difficult. In a world that allows women to work but also treats them as the primary parent for everything a kid might need, one woman, Kaitlyn (@honestly.kaitlyn) on TikTok, spoke about the things working moms do that often go unnoticed in a small but effective video of merely 21 seconds.
Kaitlyn begins the story by saying, "We are working moms." In her short video, all of her sentences start with this. Her video is a guide and "know more" booklet with a summary of what exactly all working mothers do. She further says, "Don't ask us if we are okay. We are not." This small statement speaks volumes as to just how we treat our mothers and the women around us at large.
In her next statement, she talks about how she is expected to balance her work and parenthood. She says, "We are working moms. We're expected to work like we don't have kids and parent like we don't have a job." This sentence is the perfect example of how we, as a society, expect women to give their hundered percent to their kids and family while also giving their hundred percent to their work. What we fail to take into consideration is that everyone only has a hundred percent to give, so how, and more importantly, why do we expect working women to be able to do this all?
In the next statement, she says, "We're working moms, we experience soul-crushing guilt when we're at the office and when we're at home." This guilt arises from the previous statement, where they're so casually expected to do and be their best everywhere at all times. This can often lead to expectations so heavy that it feels like a mountain crumbling over your head. In the last sentence of the video, she says, "We're working moms. After we get home from our 9 to 5, we have to rush through dinner, bath and bedtime just to do it all over again." This statement of hers is proof of the fact that women do everything for everyone all the time with little to no incentive. All mothers and parents for that matter, love their kids and do whatever they can. But working mothers are working towards being the best for the kids while doing so much more and it feels like enough credit isn't given to them.
The comments section was full of working mothers adding more things to the list. @chelsea_ann89 said, "We’re working moms, but nobody calls my husband a working dad." Another mom, @user2783633953062, said, "We’re working moms, our PTO is used for kids being sick. What is a vacation?" @wellmamas said, "We’re working moms, we have 75 thousand things running through our brain at any given moment." @oliviasontt said, "We’re working moms, we scroll on TikTok after the kids have gone to bed." Viewer @lunarxplosion said, "We're working moms - we get to spend our entire weekend catching up on cleaning we missed all week." Lastly, @elizabethharrell8 confessed something kind they do, saying, "Whenever I have to call parents (I work in a school front office), I always call the dad because moms already deal with enough."