The woman points out some interesting insights on the source of insecurities in women and men and how they affect them differently.
Insecurity has been one of the many issues that most relationships face. Whether it is inherent insecurity issues in a relationship due to trust or about one’s physical appearance, we have all dealt with it at some point in our lives and, in fact, continue to face it time and again. These issues have been talked about a lot and the internet is bursting with many tips to handle it. Similarly, a TikTok video went viral for a perspective on the source of insecurities in men and women. Posted by @user8252846282, it is captioned, “You’re all a little delusional for this.”
The video captures the woman lying on her side and recording on her phone. From the looks of the video, her thoughts seem to be like a light-bulb moment where a fresh perspective about insecurities hit her and she captured it in the title of the video. It says, “Female insecurities make sense because they were created by men.” The idea of patriarchy feeding insecurities in women is an old debate that’s been going on. However, whether these insecurities and the meaning behind them “make sense” due to “men” is another debate altogether, one which the comments section of the video witnessed.
The text continued to capture the side of men and said, “Male insecurities were literally also created by men.” Combining the two points gave the conjecture that all insecurities, whether in men or women, were created by one gender - that is, men. If you’re wondering why the TikTok user has opined this, maybe the next part of the text would make it clear. The next line of the text read, “What girl has ever turned a guy down because of his negative canthal tilt or upper eyelid exposure.” The comment section was reaching out for their phones to do a quick Google search on "canthal tilt" because it’s not a term one reads or hears every day.
As reported by GLAMOUR, according to facial plastic and reconstructive surgeon Ramtin Kassir, MD, a canthal tilt is the “angle or slant of the outer corners of the eyes about the horizontal plane of a face.” What she tried to say through her video and text was that women are less likely to turn down a man due to his facial features or what one might take a step ahead and define as "facial quirks." However, men are quicker and more likely to turn down a woman due to her certain facial distinctions. However, the debate of whether these insecurities are truly “men created” heated up in the comment section.
@flopi69420 said, “I think most of that stuff is just subconscious like they think if you have negative canthal tilt, it makes you look weak even if no one else knows why.” @casualbongos69 said, “Literally only women ever insult me for things like hip dips, nose size, etc., most men genuinely don’t care about that.” While the comment section had a battle of “insecurities” going on, the main matter of insecurities and where they stem from remains unanswered.