She emphasizes that finding a life partner is not the ultimate goal of life and that living for oneself and in the moment is equally important.
Right from when we grow up, we are told to believe that finding a life partner is crucial for a fulfilling life. It might prove to be extremely right for some people but it isn't necessary that everyone is supposed to follow it. Heather Diemond Labbe is least concerned about finding a husband for herself and she claims that she has had a life-altering realization. Labbe—who goes on TikTok by @shyftyogacoach—says that she is now living completely for herself and in the moment, and is in pursuit of her own best interest.
After shrugging off the burden of trying to find a husband for herself, Labbe expresses her innermost thoughts to her viewers. “The highest use of your life is not to secure and support marriage,” she says in the video. “They all conspired for the entirety of my life to convince me that the best and highest use of my life, body, mind and heart, was to secure and support a lifelong monogamous, heterosexual, romantic partnership.” She goes on to detail how there are three major forces in her life, her family, faith and culture.
Labbe has been through tough times when she sacrificed her energy and other relationships in order to find a husband for herself, and she wanted to meet the expectations of the three factors in her life. Labbe was previously searching for “the validation and acknowledgment” from her family, faith and culture. “It has been in the best interest of those institutions, those systems, but it has not been in my best interest,” she stated.
She claims to feel liberated and acknowledged that the shift in her mindset has changed her lifestyle. “Sometimes in the last four or five days, I shrugged off that burden. It is like I am living in a whole new world.” Labbe has decided that she is not going to pour all her physical, mental and emotional energy into securing a single partnership at the cost of losing other forms of relationships. She advises her followers to listen to “what one’s soul needs to feel nourished.”
While seeking out a romantic partner, Labbe realized that she was missing real connections in her life with others and now she is determined to live as her most authentic self and only seek her own validation. Several people could relate to her story and some of them even shared their own experiences in the comment section. @travelfarnow wrote: "Reaching my late 40s without kids or marriage has felt like a victory and liberation." @mirandar0713 commented: "45 no kids never married, any relationship in sight and I couldn’t be happier."
@italianqueen4ever added: "I am a 68-year-old woman who gratefully understood this at an early age. Never married no kids and what a blessing that has been. Best of luck to you." @rayannie12 quipped: "Feeling fortunate that all my family has ever wanted was for me to be happy. They never cared if I was married, had kids, or knew what job I wanted."