Woman explains her 'controversial' rules of parenting as a first time mother, sparks debate

There is no textbook for parenting, many of us learn from having a vision of the kind of parent we want to become and then just trying our best. However, what works best for one person might not work for the other person. This in turn makes some opinions about parenting a little controversial. Aubriana—who goes by @theorganicmami on TikTok— shared her take on parenting which sparked a debate. She shared 13 controversial parenting rules she wants her daughter to abide by to keep her safe.

Her first rule starts with “No sleepovers", including zero sleepovers with family members. Aubriana says, “She will never be left alone with a male. I don’t care if you’re the grandpa, the uncle, or the cousin. I won’t treat my daughter differently than I treat my son. For instance, I let my son go out late, but not my daughter, because it’s too dangerous for a woman. I’m just going to treat them both the same.”

This might be controversial as sleepovers are also a way for kids to bond. Stating her second rule, Aubriana says, “As a child, she still will have opinions and emotions, and she’s allowed to feel a certain way.” As a parent, she highlights the importance of her child taking a mental health day to regulate their emotions. However, despite being receptive towards her child's mental health, Aubriana communicates that she is not comfortable with her child keeping secrets from her.

She states her preference for holistic treatment methods over Western medication for her daughter. "I won’t ever talk poorly about myself in front of her and I won’t make comments about her appearance or her body image," she adds. She also aims to be a democratic parent encouraging the child's input- “Nothing will ever be just because I said so.” Aubriana is teaching her daughter to stand up for herself and have boundaries.

While some people loved the video, others had problems with some of her points and they took to the comments section to react to it. @bellaaa wrote, "Nothing will ever be just because I said so." @wastelandkilos shared, "People getting mad about the no sleepovers rule but it's actually good speaking from my childhood experiences." @itsdaisylol commented, "I get there ur own rules but you miss out on so much with no sleepovers and I made some of my best memories with sleepovers."

Parents mostly seemed to reach a consensus on most of Aubriana's rules however, "sleepovers" seemed to cause a debate. Some people held that some of their best childhood memories were from sleepovers. They stated sleepovers were a fun way for children to bond. They suggested parents could send their children for sleepovers to the house of parents they already knew. Parents on the opposing side however sided with Aubriana. They communicated having had experiences as children which made them sympathetic to Aubriana's decision of saying no to sleepovers.