She dumped her fiancé over text after constantly comparing him to her exes — but she lost it when he calmly accepted it without begging
The woman said she doesn't love him anymore, and when he accepted it, she was even more upset
Breakups are difficult, but getting dumped via a text message is a whole different kind of pain. A 27-year-old man who goes by u/mark_hadfield on Reddit shared that his fiancée broke off their engagement after almost two years together. He also revealed her wild reaction after he calmly accepted the breakup. The post was shared on June 11, and it has received over 2,000 upvotes online.
My fiancée (27F) ended our engagement over text and exploded when I (27M) accepted the breakup.
by u/mark_hadfield in relationship_advice
A failing relationship
For context, the man's ex-fiancée was bisexual, and her previous two partners were women, whom she often compared him with. The couple had been engaged for seven months, but she did not treat him like a fiancé. The woman even refused to introduce him to her new friends, saying he's a "grown man" and should do it himself. The introverted author found it difficult to make conversation and often found himself sidelined. However, the man also admitted his flaws. He confessed, "I was constantly stressed, managing a heavy workload, paying bills, and financially supporting my cousin through college — it made me preoccupied and spaced out." His ex-fiancée constantly demanded weekend trips, leaving him little or no time to rest and straining his finances.
The last straw
Once, the woman had a female friend stay over at their house. For two nights, she slept with her, cuddling on the bed. Knowing her history, the man confessed that he was jealous and confronted her about it. But the woman responded with, "I will do what I want to do, bahala ka (deal with it)." On June 1, the couple had a big fight, and the woman left the house, while he was still begging for another chance. On June 11, the man finally texted her, calling off the engagement. The woman responded, saying she doesn't love him anymore, and when he accepted their breakup, she was even more upset.
"You're proving me right. Are you okay right away with the breakup? What the f*ck! Where is your manhood?" she questioned. Instead of falling for her trap, he calmly told her that he would go to her house on Saturday, return her things and motorcycle, and break the news to her parents. She reacted with more angry texts, but this time, he refused to reply. As promised, the man went to her place and informed her parents about their breakup. Surprisingly, they sided with him and agreed their daughter was disrespectful towards the man.
Breaking up the right way
Many couples break up over text messages all the time, not realizing that it can often escalate the situation. However, things seem to be improving, as the younger generation has begun to understand the impact of breaking up with someone without facing them. For instance, the 2015 Pew Research Center survey found that 78% of teenagers believe breaking up in person is the most acceptable way, and 31% said breaking up over the phone is a better way to call off a relationship. Similarly, only 12% of teenagers said they would prefer to break up over texts.
Dodged a bullet
Meanwhile, people called out the woman and supported the man. For instance, u/RazzmatazzTop4846 commented, "The nerve of this girl. You should not be upset, I mean, yeah, a bit, but you dodged a bullet, honestly." u/ezagreb added, "She sounds emotionally immature and highly manipulative; not good attributes in a long-term partner."
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