She adopted her sister’s daughter — then she realized sister’s secret plan to stop her from having a baby

Any relationship without proper boundaries and mutual respect can turn toxic, even familial relations. A deleted user on Reddit shared a story of how her older sister ruined their relationship because of the latter's need to control her life. Eight years ago, the author's sister was 32 and pregnant, but she was not ready for the baby. The father was not in the picture, and her sister did not want to terminate the pregnancy, nor let it go to an unknown family. So, she requested her sister, who was 29 at the time, and her ex-husband to adopt the child. The couple was hesitant, thinking it would lead to problems in the future, but somehow, she managed to convince them. 

Before Lucy (daughter) turned one, the sister's husband left both of them because of her sister's lie about Lucy's father. The sister then remarried when Lucy was 4. She knew that her sister wanted children of her own before she took in Lucy, and was okay with it. When she learned her sister wanted to adopt, she objected to it. On top of their disagreement, she was now living with her sister because her boyfriend "kicked her out." The sister even dragged her own daughter into the conversation, asking Lucy several times if she wanted siblings. She was found having crossed the line after tampering with the WiFi while her sister was on an online consultation meeting with a fertility clinic to discuss sperm donation. The sister caught her red-handed holding the cord, while Lucy was trying to plug it in. Lucy said, "Auntie keeps turning the wifi off." The clinic rejected them and suggested they find a local clinic for consultation.

When they confronted her, she said that she was doing it for Lucy's sake. She wanted them to give Lucy 100% of their attention and love, and added sarcastically, "Forgive me for only wanting what's best for my daughter." They told her that Lucy is not her daughter anymore and threw her out of the house. A few hours later, she reached out to apologize, asking to come back, but the author stood firm and refused. Now, the sister is living with her parents in her childhood home.

Fights between siblings are inevitable, but each party should know when to stop before it explodes into a full-blown war. A YouGov survey on 'Family Estrangement' was conducted on 4,395 adult U.S. citizens. The results revealed that 24% of participants were currently estranged from their siblings, 26% had cut ties with their siblings, and 29% reported that their siblings had cut ties with them. The top two reasons why people cut off ties with their siblings are personality conflicts (29%) and lies and betrayal (29%), followed by manipulative behavior (26%). The sister's actions can be seen as manipulative when she convinced the author to adopt her daughter, despite their hesitation. She also tried to use emotional leverage on her own daughter, asking her about wanting siblings. Lastly, she sabotaged the meeting with the fertility clinic by justifying that she did it for Lucy. 

No one in the comments was impressed with what the sister did to her own sibling. They agreed and assured the author that she is not a jerk for kicking her own sister back to their parents' house. u/TheRottenKittensIEat wrote, "That was a huge red flag for me. There is no telling what level of manipulation she has already done to OP's daughter, and it is not okay to keep someone on the property who could be a threat to your family. I understand she still cares deeply for the child, but the daughter is OP's daughter. Visits with OP's daughter should be supervised now." u/the_last_basselope added, "NTA. She's interfering in things that are none of her business and trying to control your lives when she can barely manage her own life. Personally, I would go completely no-contact with her until she gets therapy to work through her feelings and learn to control herself."

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