A woman who worked hard to overcome driving anxiety and get her license, lost her cool when she found her husband falsely claiming credit for it.
In every relationship, partners need to have mutual respect and understanding among one another. Being a helpful partner truly forges the foundation of a romantic bond. But a woman, u/Landscapeseven, went on Reddit to share a story that left many wondering whether she would do better with a more patient and supportive spouse by her side. She revealed how she'd snapped at her husband in front of his family for a specific reason and then turned to the online community to get their opinion on whether she was in the wrong for doing so.
The 30-year-old woman started the post by revealing that she previously had a lot of anxiety when it came to driving a car. Her husband Stan, 32, has been with her for six years. "Throughout our relationship, he has tried to help me learn how to drive. The problem is Stan is not a very good teacher and gets very impatient and angry every time we try. We go to the parking lot of an abandoned warehouse sometime. If I make one small mistake, for example, if I don't check my mirrors for a long enough time. Stan yells at me," the woman shared.
All the yelling often caused the woman to break down and cry. Her brother Paul and his husband Chris ultimately offered to teach her how to drive when she expressed her willingness to learn. "They made me feel so much more at ease behind the wheel. I thought I was bad at driving, but it turns out I was just anxious," the post revealed. "Another factor that made me want to learn besides feeling like I need to do this is that Stan has told me that he won't have a child with me until I get my license, which I understand." After some time, she finally received her license and purchased a used car with her savings.
"I thought Stan would be mad that I did all of this behind his back. And he was somewhat disappointed that I didn't want his help. I love him so much, but honestly, he wasn't the right teacher for me. Anyway, on Sunday, Stan and I both had off from work and he told me he had a surprise for me. He took me to his parent's house, where they had a celebration for me, basically like a little party congratulating me because I learned how to drive," the woman shared. But things started taking a different route when her mother-in-law gave a speech about how she was proud of her daughter-in-law for getting her license and her son "for all of the support and lessons" he allegedly gave his wife.
"I could feel the anger rising in my chest. Stan had been telling everyone that he was the one who has been teaching me to drive. I snapped and told everyone that the few times Stan tried to teach me, I always ended up crying because he would yell at me until he was blue in the face. The only people who helped me and gave me confidence were Paul and Chris. But now, Stan won't talk to me. My mother-in-law, father-in-law and sister-in-law are on my side, but my two brothers-in-law and a couple of cousins are on Stan's side. I kind of feel like that I was in the wrong," the post concluded.
The Reddit community sided with the woman and left comments in her favor. u/Own_Lack_4526 questioned, "But are you sure this is the person you want to have a child with? If he can't muster the patience to teach you how to do something, what is he going to be like with a 2-year-old?" u/Peony-Pony wrote, "You can't go wrong telling the truth. If your husband is embarrassed, he shouldn't have embellished the story and tried to take credit for something he had nothing to do with at all." u/Doughnut-disturb added, "It does not sound like this man has the patience to raise a child. Potty training will be hell. Make your own conditions for having a child, either therapy for him or a different husband for you."