Woman breaks up with boyfriend for being misogynistic, asks if she's wrong

Relationships often falter when trust, understanding, and—most importantly—respect begin to erode. The situation worsens when one partner consistently dismisses the other’s feelings. What starts as small, offhand remarks can snowball into a pattern of resentment and emotional disconnection, leaving the relationship strained beyond repair. This reality hit home for Reddit user u/xoxo_lunanova, who shared her breakup story in a now-deleted post.

The 27-year-old woman began by sharing about her relationship, explaining how everything seemed perfect at first. Her 30-year-old, now ex-boyfriend, Luke, was smart, funny and had a decent job. Things were going smoothly until she started noticing a pattern—Luke began dismissing her feelings. "Like, I'd tell him something upset me, and he'd hit me with a 'Why are you being so dramatic?' or 'You're reading too much into it.' He just didn't seem to care how I felt about anything," she shared. At first, she brushed off her concerns, thinking her partner just wasn't very expressive—but soon, "things started to feel off."

Once, when the ex-couple attended a dinner party, it significantly changed their relationship dynamic. It all began when a woman spoke about her struggles in a male-dominated job and Luke casually said, "Maybe if women stopped playing the victim and worked harder, they'd get promoted," completely disregarding how she must have felt. "I was mortified. After the party, I asked him why he said that and he just shrugged, like it was no big deal and said, 'I'm not going to sugarcoat things just because she's a woman. If she was good enough, she'd get promoted,'" the woman revealed. 

It wasn't just one comment, as Luke repeatedly dismissed her experiences. Whenever she tried to confront him, he would brush it off, saying she'd been brainwashed by "feminist propaganda." However, she wanted to save her relationship and suggested couple therapy for both. However, she was stunned by how Luke reacted to the idea. "He laughed and said, 'Therapy? That's for weak people who can't handle their own issues.' When I told him I needed him to be more emotionally available, he looked me dead in the eye and said, 'Why do you need me to be all emotional? I'm not a woman. You deal with your own feelings,'" she revealed. 

It was definitely the deal breaker for her, as she broke up with Luke the same night. "He was totally shocked and called me 'overly sensitive' and said I was throwing away a 'great relationship' over nothing," she revealed. The woman then turned to people for advice, questioning if she was wrong for leaving Luke for his misogynistic attitude and lack of emotional sensitivity. The now-deleted post received an overwhelming response, with several people praising her for taking that step. 

u/edalcol commented, "Agreed. He has the emotional intelligence of sandpaper and is unwilling to take responsibility for his faults. He sounds insufferable. OP will feel alone and unsupported for the rest of her life if she stays with him." u/b3ta_5337 commented, "Overdramatic? For breaking up with a douchebag? Nope. He sees women, going to therapy, and being emotionally open as beneath him. I think you don't need this kind of guy. May he remain as an ex. He's not worth your time." u/appropriate_guard568 wrote, "You did the right thing and deep down I think you know it. I'm glad you did it before you were in too deep. Didn't pay any attention to what others say, they are the ass****, not you!"