Woman asks if she's wrong to leave friend's wedding after noticing they didn't have alcohol

Even among friends, people can have different ways of having fun and celebrating. In most situations, everyone involved in a scenario tries to find a middle ground so no one feels that they are stretching themselves too much. In a similar instance, a woman, u/Radiant_List_9993, left her friend's wedding early because she didn't know it was a dry wedding and wanted to let loose and go to bars. However, it left her in hot waters with her friend.

"So 2 weeks ago I went to a wedding in our college town for a member of our college friend group. My husband and I left the kids with my parents and we went," the 35-year-old wrote. "My husband and I don’t have a ton of time to ourselves away from the kids so we were excited to let loose," she added. The wedding was supposed to go on until 11 pm followed by an after-party with the bride and groom. The venue was a beautiful mansion which the bride and groom had for the night after which they'd leave for their honeymoon. "Cut to the wedding day and it’s a dry wedding. Apparently, the groom is 2 years sober. No one told us this and we were admittedly bummed," the woman explained.

"When we found out there was no alcohol, we told people we were going to some bars after and not going to the after party," the friend revealed. However, the couple left at 9:30 because they really wanted to go out and the wedding was getting boring. "Pretty much the whole college crew left around that time and went out," the woman pointed out. Most of the bride's friends left while the groom's friends stayed. "The optics were very lopsided at the party.  We all heard from the bride about this and she called us a******s for leaving," she stated. "She said that she didn't feel supported and felt like we were spiteing her now husband for his sobriety. I told her that she was reading too much into it. We just wanted to go out."

The post went on, "She is especially mad at me as I'm looked at as the ringleader of this outing.  I don't think I've done anything wrong." The woman also added that the wedding was at 5 pm and the reception at 6 pm. People in the comments section had mixed opinions on the situation. u/Mysterious_Prize8913 commented, "The reception started at 6, pretty standard.  She stayed 3.5 hours that's plenty. Really 11 end is kind of late for a dry wedding." u/PeepholeRodeo reasoned, "A dry wedding that goes to 11 pm— and then a dry after party? That’s crazy. I think leaving at 9:30 was completely reasonable."

u/Alternativ-Gur-308 commented, "I'd like to say you're not wrong, had you just left quietly and not talked about it with groups of people. Unfortunately, you are wrong. You told all the friends that this sucked and you were leaving to go get drunk, and became a ringleader for the group of friends to follow. I get it weddings can be boring and drag on. I went to a wedding (the marriage didn't last longer than the wedding) the wedding started at 4 pm and very little food was provided at the intermission before the reception. (Only cucumber wedges with cream cheese). By 10:30 the dinner hadn't started we ran to a diner and found other wedding guests (a complete surprise but we all laughed it off)."