Wife swears her husband’s postpartum care routine is next level and men everywhere are taking notes

Having a supportive partner can make all the difference for a new mom navigating postpartum recovery. A woman on TikTok, Sabriena Abrre (@sabriena_abrre), feels that her husband's postpartum checklist is a game-changer for making a partner feel cared for and loved. Wanting to help others, she shared the list on the platform as a guide for new dads. Abrre explained that thanks to her husband's thorough approach, she was able to stay in bed for 10 days after giving birth—without needing a village. She shared her experience in response to a TikTok user who asked, "Need tips for postpartum as a dad."

"My husband can probably teach a masterclass on how to take care of your wife postpartum, but because he won't, I'll just give you a list of everything he did," Abrre began. "Everything on this list made me feel so loved. I could stay in bed for 10 days following birth, and I only got up to use the bathroom." The first thing on the list was filling up her water bottle. "My husband never lets my water bottle go empty still to this day." He would constantly ask her if she needed water and fill up her bottle every time he went to get his own filled. "Next is to wash pump parts/Haakaa," she added. "I used a Haakaa for three weeks following birth. Every time it needed to be washed, he took it downstairs to wash it." He also handled all of her breast milk.

"Every bag of breastmilk I had, he took it downstairs, he labeled it with how many ounces were in it, the date and put it in the freezer," the mom recounted. Her husband also took care of all the meals for her and their two older children. "Tended to the baby so I could self-care," Abrre revealed. "I know that this sounds so simple, but the last thing you want to do as a newborn parent is to wear your baby in a carrier as you brush your teeth. I could take three hours in the bathroom. I never did, but he never hesitated." The husband also kept up on laundry. "Changing middle of the night diapers and burping" was another thing the husband participated in, but the mom wouldn't wake him up often because she had to wake up for breastfeeding anyway.

"Last but not least, taking out poopy diapers and my postpartum trash," Abrre highlighted. "This might be a hot take, but 17 diapers all over the coffee table and all over the ground where the kids play, that is neglect on both mom and dad's part." She continued, "My husband took out the trash, if not every day, then every other day. When you are postpartum and you are wearing diapers yourself, your trash fills up really fast with those disposable diapers. My husband never let it fill up." The mom felt that the best part of having a supportive partner was that she could focus all her energy on having a new baby.

People appreciated the husband's checklist. @lilpizza_ wrote, "I already told my partner that this is the expectation. I will not be a married, single mom." @bjaspe02 commented, "This is not the bare minimum, lol. I’m sending this to my husband as soon as possible! Due in May, and I need him to study even with three kids." @julia_ashli remarked, "Yes! My husband did this with our first and it was so helpful. Now I’m pregnant with our second and I truly appreciate his willingness to do so much."

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