Wife packs her husband's suitcase for him ahead of a trip and the internet is asking him to grow up

Marriage is way more than just a romantic notion. It is a profound bond of companionship and the willingness to look out for each other. However, sometimes, it is also about letting your partner care for himself or herself so they can be more self-reliant and need you less. An accountant and health enthusiast, David Danna—who goes by @DaveEDanna on X—shared a picture of the suitcase that his wife had packed for their Thanksgiving break. Danna's wife had neatly folded and labeled each item for different occasions, like the gym and daywear. While the gesture may seem sweet and heartwarming, it did not sit well with many people online.

It might be natural for a wife to pack for her husband, but the action led many people on the internet to think that she was mothering him. In the picture, the suitcase was perfectly packed, with each day labeled on the clothes. Many people took to the comments to discuss the situation. "I don't know. Allowing your husband to pack is also sweet. Helps him be independent," wrote @TheWeirdOne77. "She's a wife. Not a babysitter. He should grow up and pack his own clothes like an adult," added @RedWingsPheonix. "I am so happy to be with a man who actually gets very annoyed if I mother him even the tiniest bit. He's just now getting comfortable with me cooking for him. This is insane," shared @rbkh_remarkable. 

@mostunhoIy1 commented, "I'm the last person to defend a man but some people genuinely do need fucking help organizing and picking out clothes and accommodations for things like ADHD, other mental health issues. This makes life easier. If someone did this for me properly I would be over the moon." Another woman @realdocv took to the post and wrote, "I don't even pack my children's clothes. This is why so many women prefer to be single cause doing for a grown ass man what he can do for himself?" While appreciating Danna's wife, @RedKettleks said, "I was married for 23 years and can say I never packed for my husband. All couples are not the same. Your wife is sweet."

Couples should understand that some chores are their shared responsibility and shouldn't expect their partners to do the work for them. In a viral TikTok video, Texan UPS driver J.R. Minton (@minton__jr) discusses why household chores should be divided. He begins the video by describing the chores he doesn't do at home and explaining how he does not contribute to household tasks. "I don't help my wife cook. I don't help her clean, do the laundry, take care of the kids. None of that," he said.

He soon made people realize that he did all the chores as he was supposed to. "Because I do what I'm supposed to do as a father and a husband. I cook. I clean. I do the laundry. I take care of the kids. I can't help my wife do those things because they are my jobs too," he added. The dad of four then urged people to take their responsibilities seriously.