Wife left deeply unsettled by woman’s 'work proposal' to her husband — plans to crash their 'work wedding'

The concept of "work-wife" or "work-husband" is often presented as a platonic relationship between two co-workers. However, sometimes, it can introduce complex and damaging dynamics between spouses. In one such story, uploaded on Reddit by u/NewestAccount2023, a wife talked about how a relationship between her husband and a female co-worker has deeply affected her.

"My husband has a 'work wife'; they are friends who go out to lunch often and tease each other and talk about some personal things," the woman wrote in the post. 

She then went on to mention how this coworker even brings him homemade lunches sometimes, and he brings her leftover desserts. "It didn't bother me at first, but it feels like she has a connection to him that I don't," the woman wrote in the post. "To make matters worse, she 'work-proposed' to him to 'make their work-relationship work-official,' she playfully feels like he's not a real work husband if they don't have an actual work wedding," the post read. She then talked about how her husband mostly cracks jokes about their relationship which is slowly getting on her nerves.

"He thinks it's hilarious, and their manager said it's a fine excuse to throw a party using their pizza party funds. They throw celebratory parties somewhat often when they ship a product or land a big client," she wrote. Now, the wife is truly tense about the wedding that is scheduled to take place in their office. "He was planning on wearing his normal work clothes to the 'wedding,' but there are rumors she's going to wear her wedding dress from her failed marriage (she's been divorced for 5 years)," she wrote.

Towards the end of the post, the woman asked the community if it would be okay for her to show up and respectfully voice her concerns during the wedding. "His coworkers know me from the last Christmas party and the time I had to bring him a clean pair of pants, so I know they'd let me into the party. It's in the middle of the day, so I'd need to take time off work, but if I can stop their marriage, maybe I can save mine," she wrote before ending the post. 

Many people took to the comment section to voice their opinions. "This is just weird lol. Grown adults behaving like that and that and their manager is cool to have a party wedding ?!" wrote u/Successful_Part_7187. "I think you showing up is a good idea, make it awkward- your presence should make them (the ‘happy couple’ and the office wedding party) realize how stupid and cringey this all is," added u/s8i8m. "This is ridiculous. I would point blank say, 'This is not okay. I am not okay with this. Put an end to it, or we're in dealbreaker territory.'"

"It's absurd on so many levels...I've always thought the work wife/hubby thing is stupid, but this is an actual distraction - and I cannot imagine any reasonable HR department not having more than a few issues with it. Absolute absurdity. Do you know this woman at all? It's so f***ing inappropriate," wrote u/doomedfollicle.