Wife asks if husband inviting his ex and their kids to Christmas dinner is wrong, sparking debate

Christmas is a time that offers parents the opportunity to create beautiful memories and gain heartwarming experiences, celebrating love and togetherness with their kids. But things get a little complicated when you find yourself juggling to spend time between two families. Something very similar unfolded when a woman, @onion88, shared her story on Mumsnet. Her spirit was abruptly challenged when her "Dear husband" dropped a bombshell proposal of hosting his ex-girlfriend and their children on Christmas.

While sharing a little background about her situation, the wife wrote, "My husband and his ex-gf share two children. They have been separated for 10 years (The kids are in their early teens). We have been together for 6 years and share a child who is 3. My husband's ex has been in a relationship for the last 6/7 years. Unfortunately, that relationship has just ended." Further, the wife spoke about how her husband and his former partner had a bumpy relationship at the beginning of their separation. But later, both found a middle ground and ever since then, they have been great at co-parenting their kids.

"Right now, they co-parent pretty well and it's relatively calm because DSC can mainly contact us/ their mum by themselves now, so not much need for contact, but it's by no means been an easy or stress-free road. I am glad that we mainly need to have nothing to do with her anymore," the wife added. While the husband and her ex share the kids' custody equally, they usually split time to spend with the children. While talking about their Christmas tradition, she wrote, "Usually they (her husband and his ex-girlfriend) split the day so one has morning, one has them for dinner and changes each year."

The situation was pretty chill until the husband's ex shared that she wanted to keep the kids with her for the whole Christmas. This did not sit well with the husband, as he was looking forward to hosting his kids. The wife was flabbergasted when her husband approached her with an insane idea of celebrating Christmas. She wrote, "But anyway, he just blindsided me yesterday saying that he's going to suggest to his ex that either she comes here for Christmas dinner with DSC (my family usually comes, so that will be nice and awkward) or he wants to take our child to her house to see DSC in the afternoon on Christmas day, leaving me at home without our child on Christmas day."

"If he wants to drop in to see DSC and can't just wait until boxing day, then he can. But I don't want our child going or her coming here," she concluded. Moreover, she sought advice from people on the platform and asked if she was being unreasonable in arguing with her husband. The post garnered a lot of attention online, with people reacting to her story. @cityandmakeup wrote, "I think I'd be more sad that he doesn't see you as part of the family if his Christmas is ruined because of that."

@magentaravioli commented, "To be honest, if the adults can be civil to each other, it could be a good way to spend Christmas and fun for the kids. But it completely depends on the family dynamic. Some blended family get-togethers can be a blast." @catza commented, "I don't see what's wrong with him popping over there on Christmas afternoon. It doesn't sound as though he is planning to spend the whole day there. I don't see why he needs to take your child as well, though."