What's the secret to a 30-year marriage? This couple has the real answers you're looking for

A relationship, especially a romantic bond, becomes successful after years of putting in effort, building trust, and sharing experiences. However, a little misunderstanding can ruin it all. Understanding your partner and not running away from problems can help strengthen relationships, ensuring that love and friendship are maintained.

Dale and Susan, a 30-year-married couple, beautifully explained this profound truth about human connection. Talking to Cuffed (@cuffed.dating), the duo shared the importance of asking questions instead of making assumptions. 

"Marry someone who has the attitude that everything is work-out-able," Susan began when asked about best relationship advice. She further described how avoiding problems only adds to the tension, making things worse rather than resolving them.

"Like if there is a flag, if there is a tension there or something that makes you uncomfortable. Those are the things to take note of but not necessarily run from," Susan added. Moreover, she explained that life's lows are the perfect opportunity to tackle challenges together and see where the journey takes you.

"Instead of making assumptions, instead of running, ask questions," Susan said. 

As her husband Dale sat beside her, he asked, "What do you mean by that? Or what's really going on underneath?" Susan immediately agreed, "Yes! What do you mean by that? That's a great question to ask." The couple revealed it was a key practice they'd embraced for three decades in their marriage. "Because it may not be what you think it is," Susan emphasized.

Meanwhile, Dale shared that like many couples, there were moments when he doubted if they would make it to 30 years. "But we kept pushing through, and we did. We are more in love now after 30 years than when we started," he said. The wholesome video ended with Susan saying, "Sometimes it is hard, but it's totally worth it."

This heartwarming story highlighted that lasting relationships require continuous effort, trust, and most importantly, open communication. Similarly, Dale and Susan demonstrated how tackling challenges together strengthens love and deepens connection. The Instagram reel took social media by storm, leaving netizens in awe.

For instance, @nelinalations wrote, "What I’ve learned from every single elderly, long-lasting couple is that communication is the MOST essential ingredient for a healthy relationship." @aromera wrote, "I love this mindset! I try to practice it. But finding someone that thinks like this is the challenging part." @yamoussasoumah commented, "This is true: communicate and ask questions. Sometimes we get in our head and start making up scenarios that are irrelevant to the actual situation."

Similarly, @kajalchauhan wrote, "Well, this advice works only if the other partner does the same. One-sided efforts cannot make things workable." @eileenrivers wrote, "Yes. But when you ask questions and the person is defensive about the questions, that’s the red flag to high tail it out if there. Some things can’t be worked through with a person who is unwilling."

@alex commented, "My wife and I went through some of our hardest years before we chose to get married. In those dark moments, we had a ritual that is still being used to this day. Whenever one of us was really down we’d ask: 'It’s gonna be okay right?' Whereas the other person would say: 'It’s gonna be okay.' Have each other’s back, don’t sweat the small stuff, life is hard, make what you have between you sacred."

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